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Honest Question— if you lined up a Christian and an unbeliever side by side, could you really  tell the difference? Be honest. Sometimes, it feels like the lines are blurry, doesn’t it? In fact, I’ve heard some people say (and honestly, I can’t entirely disagree) that unbelievers sometimes display more of the fruit of the Spirit than us church folks do. Ouch, right? But hey, we’ll save that  convo for another day. I’m not saying this to be judgmental—I’ve been there. For years, I was the Christian who wore the title but lived by the world’s standards. I could talk the talk, but my life didn’t reflect the transformation that’s supposed to come with following Christ. So, what’s going on? Why do so many believers live lukewarm, powerless lives, lacking true love and transformation? Here’s my take: the gospel that most of us received was watered down. We were taught to accept Jesus but never shown how to truly follow Him. Discipleship was barely emphasized, and the hard truth about denying ourselves and letting go of worldly comforts was often glossed over. And let’s face it—who wants to hear that? We want to follow God on our terms, but Jesus never left that option open. He laid it out plainly in Matthew 16:24-25: “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” It’s a call to surrender, to give up the life we thought we wanted in exchange for the life He has for us. But how many of us can boldly say we’re truly following Jesus? For too many, the focus has shifted to following pastors, programs, and church traditions instead of following Christ Himself. This isn’t about blame—it’s about getting back to the heart of the gospel. It’s about embracing the hard but beautiful truth of what it means to be a disciple of Jesus. So, let’s unpack this together. What does it really mean to follow Him? And how do we get back to the kind of faith that changes lives? Stay with me—this is a conversation we all need. To be continued.

Hey fam, before we dive into this blog post, can we take a moment to clap it up for your girl? Credit score just hit the 800s! Won’t He do it?! Had to share—okay, back to business! Today’s topic isn’t light—it’s deep. It’s real, and affecting more people than they realize . And sadly, it’s something many Christians remain unaware of. Why? Because we like to see and treat things from a physical perspective , forgetting that life is spiritual . Paul wasn’t playing when he said, “The weapons of our warfare are not carnal” (2 Corinthians 10:4). But let’s be honest—many of us are out here fighting spiritual battles with carnal weapons . We try to solve spiritual problems with therapy, self-care routines, motivational quotes, or “good vibes,” while ignoring the deeper, spiritual root of the issue. The church has failed in teaching spiritual warfare , leaving many believers unarmed and vulnerable . And guess what? The enemy thrives in our ignorance. It’s easy to attack someone who doesn’t even know they’re in a war. That’s spiritual blindness . “My people perish for lack of knowledge.” (Hosea 4:6) And the body of Christ is perishing in this area. So, think of this blog post as a crash course—Generational Patterns 101. We’re laying the foundation, and in future posts, we’ll dig even deeper. Buckle up. ARE YOU READY TO LEARN? What Are Generational Patterns? Let’s keep it simple. Generational patterns are recurring behaviors, mindsets, and spiritual conditions—both positive and negative —that are passed down through family lines. They can be rooted in: ✅ Obedience to God → Brings blessings. ❌ Disobedience to God → Opens doors to curses. Simply put: Your family line can either inherit a blessing or inherit a curse —the choice is based on obedience to God. Your family’s past decisions can affect your present reality! Generational Patterns in the Bible This isn’t just theory—it’s biblical law . 1. Obedience Brings Blessings (Deuteronomy 28:1-14) “If you fully obey the Lord your God and carefully follow all his commands… all these blessings will come on you.” • Blessed in the city and the country • Favor in work, business, and family • Victory over enemies • Long life and abundance Let’s make it practical : Some families have blessed/strong marriages, financial favor, strong faith, and long life . Everyone seems to thrive in every area of life! That’s not random—it’s a spiritual inheritance - that’s a pattern of blessing . 2. Disobedience Brings Curses (Deuteronomy 28:15-68) “If you do not obey the Lord… all these curses will come on you and overtake you.” • Poverty and financial struggle • Family breakdowns and divorce • Sickness and generational health issues • Bondage, addictions, and oppression Let’s make it practical : ever noticed families where: • Every man cheats or gets divorced ? Cycles of broken marriages? • Poverty runs through every generation ? • Sickness or premature death is common ? • No one seems to serve God wholeheartedly ? These aren’t just bad luck —they are patterns . Just as you inherit physical traits from your family, you can also inherit spiritual ones. The Concept of Spiritual Inheritance: We Don’t Talk About Doctors ask about family medical history because past health conditions can impact future generations. • “Did your parents or grandparents have diabetes?” • “Any history of heart disease in your family?” They do this because patterns reveal root causes . If a disease has run in your family for generations, there’s a higher chance it could affect you. The more a doctor knows about your bloodline, the better they can diagnose and treat you. But here’s the question: If the medical world understands heredity, why do we ignore spiritual inheritance? The same way a doctor examines your family history to diagnose physical health, we need to examine our spiritual bloodline to understand certain patterns in our lives. • Why is there a cycle of broken marriages in my family? • Why does poverty seem to follow every generation? Just as physical traits and diseases can be passed down, so can spiritual conditions—both blessings and curses can be passed down as well . The Spiritual Principle of Inheritance Your last name carries weight . • If your father was a great man , his name opens doors for you. • If your father was corrupt , his name closes doors for you. Spiritually, the same thing happens . Think of spiritual inheritance this way. Some families pass down millions in wealth, trust funds, and properties. Others pass down debt. What has your family passed down spiritually ? I struggled with this concept at first. “I’m a good person. I don’t practice witchcraft! Why should I suffer?” But then I realized: 👉 The world is wicked. 👉 Even if you didn’t personally sin, sin in your bloodline can impact you. 👉 You can be good and still get robbed—your goodness doesn’t change reality. The spiritual realm operates on laws , and ignorance of those laws doesn’t exempt you from the consequences . The Commandment Most People Overlook Let’s address this biblically! We all agree the Ten Commandments are still valid today, right? Jesus Himself confirmed this: “Do not think that I came to do away with or undo the Law [of Moses] or the [writings of the] Prophets; I did not come to destroy but to fulfill.” (Matthew 5:17) But there’s one commandment people don’t take seriously —and it’s the one that explicitly mentions generational consequences . Exodus 20:4-6 (Idolatry & Generational Consequences) “You shall not make for yourself an idol… for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.” This is the only commandment that mentions multi-generational impact . Many think, “I don’t worship idols!” But do you know what your ancestors worshipped? • Did they serve other gods—Oshun, Shango, Amadioha, Greek gods, Aztec gods? • Did your great-grandparents practice witchcraft? • Did they join secret societies, cults, or groups that worshipped something other than Jesus ? Most people have no clue about the covenants their forefathers made. Even if YOU didn’t do it, someone in your bloodline did. And per Exodus 20 , un-repented sin can carry consequences across generations. Breaking Free: How to Break Generational Patterns Now, I know what you’re thinking— “But Jesus died for us, right?” Yes, He did. And that’s why we need to APPLY His blood to break every evil spiritual inheritance. This isn’t just about fire prayers —true warfare starts with: ✅ Repentance  → Personal and bloodline repentance. Breaking legal rights of the enemy ✅ Forgiveness  → Closing doors to past pain ✅ Holiness & Obedience  → Living surrendered to Christ ✅ Renewing the Mind  (Romans 12:2) → Transforming thoughts with truth ✅ Applying the Blood of Jesus  → Declaring freedom over your lineage 🛑 Saying "I'm saved" or "I'm Christian" by title is not enough. Without true repentance and walking in holiness, people can still experience the effects of generational curses, even as Christians . That’s why so many believers love God but still struggle with unseen battles —addictions, financial struggles, marital issues, anxiety. You Can’t Fight Satan While Still Holding Hands With Him. You can’t cast out what you still entertain . You can’t rebuke the devil on Sunday while dancing with him on Friday. If you keep flirting with sin , don’t be surprised when the enemy takes full ownership of what you refuse to surrender. Sin isn’t just “a little mistake” —it’s an open door . The more we sin, the more we take on the nature of the devil ( ouch! ). But here’s the real kicker—the more we walk in holiness , the more we look like Christ , and the devil has no control over Jesus! This is why we must hate sin —not just avoid it, not just “try to do better,” but hate it like the poison it is. Because the more we conform to Christ , the more the devil loses his grip. When he looks at you and sees Jesus , he knows he’s already defeated ! The Devil Uses Un-repented Sin as His Legal Right. • If your mother battled depression , that spirit may try to attack you. • If your father struggled with lust, the enemy will send women your way. • If your bloodline was greedy for money, the enemy will dangle wealth to pull you away from God. Why Some Christians Still Struggle Because they live double lives . • They want freedom , but they still entertain sin and stay in cycles of sin. • They want deliverance , but they still love the world more than God . • They claim to be Christian , but their lifestyle contradicts holiness . The enemy doesn’t fear Christians who still compromise. The truth? You can’t defeat the devil while still walking in sin. You can’t fight a generational curse while still engaging in the sin that activated it . Be the Repairer of the Breach Isaiah 58:12 says, “You shall be called the Repairer of the Breach” Somebody in your bloodline has to break the cycle. Somebody has to say, “Enough is enough!” Somebody has to stand in the gap for future generations. “This cycle ends with me! My children will not inherit this! I will stand in the gap for my family!” 🛑 Will you be that person? If yes! Declare this prayer: “Lord, cleanse me from every iniquity in my bloodline. Purge me from every hidden darkness inherited before I was even born. I renounce every covenant, pattern, and cycle that does not align with Your will for my life. Let this negative pattern break with me! In Jesus’ name, amen!” Disclaimer: Generational Patterns vs. Personal Responsibility Some people blame generational curses for everything and take zero responsibility. I agree— not everything is a generational curse. 💡 Some struggles come from bad decisions, lack of discipline, or sin. 💡 Some trials are God’s pruning to shape us for purpose. 💡 But in all honesty, many people are trapped by generational patterns and don’t even realize it. Final Thoughts: Choose Your Spiritual Legacy Generational patterns are real , but Jesus Christ breaks every chain for those who surrender fully to Him . Your decision matters. Your bloodline is waiting for a deliverer . Will you be the one to break the cycle ? Bonus Resource 1. Tiphani & Kevin LA Ewing – A Prophetic Sound for This Hour This is more than a conversation—it’s a divine alignment. Let the Spirit speak to you through it. 🎬 Watch here 2. Jamas Aladiran – Bloodlines, Altars, and Covenants A deep dive into the spiritual roots that shape destinies. Chains are exposed. Freedom is near. 🎬 Watch here Don’t just scroll past—press in. Heaven is trying to get your attention.

Oh lord this topic!!! We have to talk about it! This  is an area that I was forced to confront some deep truths. I was deceived, and God corrected me in ways I never expected. As I share my journey, please don’t judge me—I’m just being real. A Journey of Deception Before I truly gave my life to Christ, I was a full-on sermon junkie. Every day, I’d tune in to sermons from different pastors. Sometimes the message stirred something deep inside me, and sometimes it just felt like background noise. Looking back now, I see that it was a legalistic habit—a way to feel like I was doing something “right.” The truth: I was chasing emotional highs instead of real heart change. As Hebrews 4:12 reminds us, “The word of God is alive and active,” yet what I was hearing only stirred up feelings, not transformed my heart. It didn’t cut to the heart, convict me, or challenge me to change. A genuine message should do both: fire up your emotions and challenge you to change. The Gospel: It’s Not About Who Makes You Feel Good… Listening to sermons isn’t the problem, but who you listen to matters. I eventually had to step away from listening to some of the popular and  mega-church pastors. It’s important to note that not all popular and mega-churches are bad, but the ones I was following were not providing the depth and challenge that lead to genuine spiritual growth. They preached a watered-down, feel-good gospel while living lives that didn’t quite match their words (that’s a story for another day). Thankfully, God steered me toward teachers who delivered the raw, unfiltered Gospel. Suddenly, it wasn’t about feeling good; it was about real transformation. “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near” (Matthew 4:17) started to mean something deep. Are Churches Truly Preaching The Gospel ? It seems like a lot of churches today might be missing the core of what our faith is all about. Imagine it like being in college: you have your major classes and then you have electives. In our spiritual lives, the Gospel of Jesus—centered on repentance and truly following Him—should be our major. This is the essential course and message. But what’s happening is, many sermons are focusing heavily on the electives—things like marriage, finance, spiritual warfare, and prosperity. These are important, sure, but they’re not the heart of the curriculum. They should complement, not replace, the fundamentals of repentance, sanctification, and living a life that mirrors Christ. We often hear more about blessings than the tough, convicting messages of righteousness and holiness. And here’s the hard truth: “Without holiness, no one will see the Lord” (Hebrews 12:14). We can’t keep pretending that living in sin and comfort is okay just because God loves us. His love calls us to change, to repent, and to live in true holiness. Side note: Remember, holiness isn’t just about sexual purity—it’s so much more than that. It’s about how we treat people, how we love, how we forgive, the thoughts we entertain, how we react, and the posture of our hearts. Holiness —it’s a lifestyle! Tough Love In Our Walk Sometimes, love has to be loud. I once heard a teacher ask: If you saw someone’s house on fire, would you whisper, “Hey, get out, your house is burning,” or scream at the top of your lungs to save them? Real love isn’t always gentle—it can be a wake-up call that shakes us out of our comfort zones. If your faith feels too comfortable, you might be missing out on true growth. Church as a Business: A Dangerous Trend Let’s be real for a second: Churches have turned into businesses—spiritual corporations, if you will. The pastor has become the CEO, running the place with strategy, marketing, and a focus on filling seats and growing that bank account. The mission? Keep the congregation happy and keep the money flowing. But here’s the truth: The Gospel isn’t about pleasing people; it’s about Jesus! We’ve seen pastors tailoring their messages to boost membership, preaching what the crowd wants to hear instead of what the truth demands. And that’s not the Gospel—it’s a compromise of God’s truth. True preaching means boldly proclaiming the full message of the kingdom, even if it offends or loses followers. So, here’s the real question: Are we listening to preachers who are more concerned with being liked, or are we listening to pastors who boldly call us to holiness, purity and repentance—even when it ruffles some feathers? I Had to Change Who I Listened To There was a turning point where I had to stop listening to many popular pastors. Just because they have a huge social media following doesn’t mean they’re preaching the truth. “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 7:21). I realized that a large congregation doesn’t necessarily mean the presence of God is there. Churches can grow, perform miracles, and still miss the mark entirely. What matters is whether or not people are being transformed to look like Christ. The true measure of a church is not its size or popularity—it’s the spiritual growth and maturity of the people. So ask yourself: What Gospel are you hearing? Is it a message that calls you to repent, live in holiness, and experience true transformation? Or is it just a feel-good sermon that leaves you stuck in old habits? If you’ve been in church for twenty years and still struggling  with pornography, you still treat your wife and family like trash. What gospel are you really listening to? C’mon, fam—the gospel is meant to change you and mold you into Christ’s likeness! Here’s is bottom line: not every pastor or church is genuinely leading people closer to Christ. Remember, salvation is personal. You won’t get to heaven by your pastor’s covering. “Each of us will give an account of himself to God” (Romans 14:12). It’s on us to dig into the Word, discern carefully, and really test whether what we’re hearing matches up with Scripture  (1 John 4:1). It’s not enough to like a sermon; it needs to be biblically sound and lead to godly living. Conclusion: Who Is Your Pastor? As we wrap up, remember this: not every church is registered in heaven, and there are wolves in sheep’s clothing among us. Many pastors preach from the flesh instead of being truly Spirit-led. Who you listen to shapes your journey—either pointing you toward Jesus or leading you astray. So, ensure that whoever holds your ear is directing you to Christ, not themselves or their own agenda. Don’t put any pastor on a pedestal—the only model we need is Jesus. If you take nothing else from this post, let these points sink in: just because something sounds nice doesn’t mean it’s biblical, and don’t accept anyone’s word as gospel without testing it against Scripture. Pray, study the Bible, and stay woke. Music time No music today switching up sharing three powerful videos  its a must watch for everyone! Ezekiel and Philip Mitchell chop it up real talk open candid conversation it will truly bless and encourage you: Watch here . Jerry flowers on hardly initiated - addressing lukewarm Christians , he also talks about marriage and some personal topics : Watch here . Disclaimer—I’m not sharing these pastors because they’re my pastors or anything like that. I’m sharing the message because it’s powerful. By no means am I endorsing or pushing you to follow them. Always test everything against Scripture and let the Holy Spirit guide you!

You know, in another life, I really thought I was going to be a psychologist or therapist. I’ve always been fascinated by the mental well-being of people—how we think, process pain, and ultimately, how we heal. But I guess God had other plans for me. Or maybe, just maybe, He’ll still use me in that way someday. Either way, one thing I know for sure: God cares about the wholeness of people. Today, I want to talk about how to heal well —not just patching things up on the surface, but truly, deeply, and spiritually healing in a way that brings lasting transformation. And I want to take you on a journey through both my lukewarm days and my surrendered life to God because, trust me, the contrast is night and day . Healing in My Lukewarm Days: Surface-Level Patching I was never a serial dater (in fact, I can count the number of men I’ve dated on one hand), but it didn't mean I was exempt from heartache. The first real experience with emotional pain happened when I was extremely young. Too young. Yep, I jumped the gun! You know that verse in the Bible by the wisest man? “Do not awaken love before its time” (Song of Solomon 8:4). Yeah… I awakened love way before its time, and I suffered for it. At a young age, I loved deeply but unwisely. I made a terrible decision—one that hurt both me and the other person. And because I cannot lie or pretend to the people I love, I confessed. That confession shattered my heart. I longed for forgiveness, but at the time, it was unforgivable to them. The pain was unbearable, and I felt isolated because, let’s be real, who was I going to tell? I was way too young to even be in a relationship, so I suffered in silence. That experience changed how I approached relationships. I became extra careful—not just with my own heart, but with the hearts of others. Fast forward ten years later , another heartbreak hit me—this time, it was deception and betrayal. Those kinds of heartbreaks are the worst because they blindside you. I tried for months to reconcile, but every attempt ended in rejection. It was heavy . So what did I do? I turned to coping mechanisms. • I started working out religiously (which, to be fair, was a good thing). • I also prayed for the person who hurt me, and after a while, I felt some peace. • I distracted myself, hoping time would heal me. But something was still missing . To some extent , these things did help. I had healed halfheartedly —but I hadn’t healed completely . Why? Because I hadn’t surrendered my wounds to God. My soul was still carrying childhood traumas, insecurities, and unspoken fears. And the enemy? He was still preying and feeding on those wounds, using them to fuel on insecurities and fears in my life. “Unhealed wounds don’t disappear. They follow you.” I thought I was healed because I could function. But I wasn’t free. The truth? Sometimes, the defense mechanisms we create to “protect” ourselves are actually just prison walls keeping us in bondage. Let that sink in. But Let God Heal you! Healing the Godly Way: Deep, Lasting, and Transformative Five years later, I experienced the worst heartbreak of my life . The kind of pain that shakes your faith, makes you question everything and sends you into a downward spiral. This time, anxiety came knocking. Hard. But here’s where my story finally shifts— I ran straight to God. This time, I knew this was beyond me . No distraction, no coping mechanism, no amount of time could fix what was broken inside me. See, I thought healing meant just getting rid of the situation, but no. Healing with God is a total reconstruction . He wasn’t just fixing my heart—He was changing me . I had to: • Forgive people who never apologized. • Pray for those who hurt me—even when I didn’t want to. • Face my childhood wounds and let God rewire my mindset. • Break Cycles – Identifying and shutting down generational strongholds in prayer. I had to stop believing the lie that people always leave and start seeing love through God’s lens . Most of all, I had to learn that before I could love anyone correctly, I had to love God first . “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind. This is the first and greatest commandment.” (Matthew 22:37-38) God started uncovering the hidden wounds in my soul—the ones I didn’t even know were still bleeding . He made me confront them, confess them, repent of them. Because the enemy will always use unhealed pain to trap you in cycles of heartbreak, bad decisions, and doubt . And let’s be real—sometimes, the thing that broke us wasn’t even the relationship. It was something deeper . The First Heartbreak: Our Parents’ Unhealed Wounds Your first heartbreak? It probably wasn’t from a boyfriend or girlfriend—it was from your parents . Someone once said, “A child’s first enemy is their parent’s unhealed wound.” And whew—that hit me hard. We carry pain from childhood that follows us into adulthood . And when we don’t let God heal us, we start bleeding on people who had nothing to do with our wounds . That’s why healing well is so important. I had to go all the way back to the roots. I had to deal with childhood pain, generational patterns, and false beliefs about love, security, and trust. It was a process of unlearning and relearning . Healing is a Process, Not a Quick Fix The fruit of true healing is wholeness . Healing the godly way isn’t just about feeling better —it’s about becoming whole. God doesn’t just patch up wounds—He restores . He doesn’t just take away pain —He builds you up so pain won’t break you again. And when God heals, He heals so completely that it seems like the pain never happened . The wounds become scars —but they don’t define you anymore. And more than that, He equips you so that pain no longer has the same access to your heart . • You stop letting negative emotions sit too long . • You learn to handle pain the godly way —not through distractions or worldly methods. • He teaches you to guard your heart—not with walls of fear, but with wisdom and discernment . Stop Rushing, Start Healing We live in a culture that tells us to jump from one relationship to another when we’re hurt. But that’s a trap . When you try to fill your wounds with people , you only bleed on them—and they bleed on you. Only God can truly satisfy and heal you. Healing well means taking time to: • Let God fully restore you. • Identify and break destructive patterns . • Close the soul wounds so the enemy has no entry point. True Healing Tips: What You Can’t Afford to Forget If you don’t remember anything else, remember the tips on what I’ve learned about true healing : 1. Healing isn’t just about moving on—it’s about being transformed. God didn’t just want to take away my pain. He wanted to mold me into His image. 2. God is Jehovah Rapha—the Lord who heals. And not just physical wounds. He heals the mind, the heart, the soul— every part of us. 3. Forgiveness is a must—even when you never get an apology. I had to forgive the people who hurt me. 4. God will make you go back and make things right. I had to reach out to people I had hurt —even if it had been years. Humility is required for healing. Pride will keep you in pain. 5. Healing childhood wounds is essential. The fear of abandonment I carried? It wasn’t from relationships—it was from childhood experiences. Unhealed childhood wounds become open doors for the enemy to attack us later. 6. You must love God first before you can truly love others. The first commandment? Love the Lord your God with all your heart. Only then can you love others the right way. 7. The Word of God is healing. When I started reading Scripture about God healing the brokenhearted , my perspective shifted. I wasn’t just reading—I was being transformed. 8. You cannot heal by jumping into another relationship. This world tells you to “get over someone by getting under someone else.” That’s a lie straight from the enemy. You cannot fill voids with people. True healing happens when you stop looking to people and start looking to God. Healing Well Means Becoming Whole “Guard Your Heart! “ Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23) If your soul is wounded, your future relationships will pay the price . Take the time. Heal well . Your future spouse, your children, and your calling are depending on your wholeness. Don’t hand them a broken version of you. They deserve better. You deserve better. And God? He’s ready to heal you completely . All you have to do is surrender. 🎶 Music Time! Let’s Talk Songs 🎶 📖 “Volume of the Book” – Moses Akoh, Greatman Takit, Theophilus Sunday This one? Whew. It’s a cry for alignment, a reminder that God has already written our purpose. Are you walking in what’s been written about you, or just doing your own thing? ⚫⚪ “No Grey” – Jonathan McReynolds Let’s be real— God doesn’t do lukewarm. You’re either in or out, black or white. No sitting on the fence. This song? It’s that nudge we all need— make a choice. Turn these up. Let the lyrics hit. Let God speak. 🎧

Alright, let’s talk. But before you come for me—pause, pray, and check your heart. This one might shake the table a bit, but hear me out and, more importantly, test everything against the Word ( 1 Thessalonians 5:21 ). Today’s topic? Church denominations. Or, as I like to call them, church tribes. Okay, that’s what we are discussing! I wrestled with this one because I know how sensitive it can be, but we need to have this conversation. In my first ever blog post, I touched on how Christianity has become more of a tradition than a way of life . Culture has crept into the church, and we often don’t realize that we’re doing things more culturally than biblically . And you know where this shows up big time ? Denominations. While they may have started with good intentions, denominations have become a major source of division in the Body of Christ. Keep reading I’ll explain further. Loyalty to Denomination Over Jesus? We have Baptists, Anglicans, Catholics, Redeemers, Pentecostals —the list goes on. And while each may have different practices, rituals, and beliefs , the unifying connector is the Bible . The sad truth: Some of us have become more loyal to our church denomination than to the gospel of Jesus Christ . I’ve seen people argue over simple things—“Do we say Holy Spirit or Holy Ghost ?” People refuse to get married or baptized outside of their denomination. Some churches won’t even let you preach unless you fit their “tribal” requirements. So much division while claiming to serve the same God. But here’s my question: Where is the biblical backing for this? Tradition does not equal truth . Just because something has been done a certain way for a long time doesn’t mean it’s biblically correct (Mark 7:8-9). If we claim to follow Jesus, then everything we do must be backed by scripture, not just culture or church tradition . The Berean Mindset Paul commended the Bereans in Acts 17:11 because they didn’t just take his word for it. They examined the Scriptures daily to make sure what he preached was true . How many of us can honestly say we put this level of scrutiny into practice? How the Bereans examined Paul’s words Where Is Denomination in the Bible? Jesus Called Us Disciples, Not Denominations Today, many people identify as Baptist, Pentecostal, Catholic, Anglican , etc., but if you ask them why , most can’t give a biblical answer. They say things like: • “My parents were Baptist, so I just continued.” • “I like this church’s vibe.” • “This is what I know.” But nowhere in the Bible does God label us by denomination. Have you ever searched the Scriptures to see if what your denomination teaches aligns with God’s Word ? Or are you just going with the flow? Hear me clearly—I’m not saying that denominations are inherently wrong . The problem is when denominations become our identity over Christ . Let’s not forget—denominations are just man-made labels. People started these movements to worship God. When Jesus gave the Great Commission , He didn’t say, “Go therefore and make more Baptists, Pentecostals, or Catholics.” No. He said, “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.” (Matthew 28:19) Jesus called us to be disciples —followers of Him. That’s it. What Did the Early Church Look Like? Let’s take it back to the Book of Acts (one of my favorite books—you should read it if you want to understand the early church). Here’s a quick summary of the first chapter: • Jesus ascended to heaven. • He told His disciples to wait for the Holy Spirit . • They obeyed, prayed, and the Holy Spirit came upon them in power . • People were confused—some were amazed, others mocked. • Peter preached boldly: “Repent and turn to Jesus.” • 3,000 people got saved in one day. That’s how the church grew—not by denomination but by the power of the Gospel. “Now all who believed were together, and had all things in common, and sold their possessions and goods, and divided them among all, as anyone had need. So continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they ate their food with gladness and simplicity of heart.” (Acts 2:44-46, NKJV) There was no denominational division —only fellowship, unity, and a commitment to follow Christ. Because I’m a sucker for history, here’s an interesting fact—did you know that the term Christian wasn’t originally a badge of honor? In Antioch (Acts 11:26), people started calling the followers of Jesus Christians , but fun fact? It was probably meant as an insult. What’s even more interesting? The early church didn’t call themselves Christians—they identified as disciples or followers of Christ . The term Christian wasn’t coined by those who followed Jesus, but by those who didn’t. Funny how that worked out, huh? Yet here we are today, wearing it proudly! My Denomination Is Better Than Yours? One of the biggest issues in the church today? People act like their denomination is the elite squad of Christianity—as if Jesus Himself signed off on their statement of faith and no one else’s. But let’s be real… this mindset is tearing the Body of Christ apart. Paul pleaded with the church: “Now I plead with you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.” (1 Corinthians 1:10, NKJV) Yet instead of coming together as one in Christ, we let denominations divide us—when in reality, they should never be what defines us. Jesus didn’t die for a denomination. He died for His Church . So why are we acting like our little man- made label group has the monopoly on truth? Paul even rebuked the Corinthians for this: “For when one says, ‘I am of Paul,’ and another, ‘I am of Apollos,’ are you not carnal?” (1 Corinthians 3:4, NKJV) Sound familiar? Today we say: • “I’m Baptist.” • “I’m Pentecostal.” • “I’m Catholic.” But Paul is saying: You’re all missing the point! It’s not about your denomination —it’s about Jesus. So, Why Do You Rep Your Denomination? Is it because of tradition, culture, or biblical truth? Are you more focused on defending your denomination than helping people conform to the image of Christ? Before anything else, you are a child of God, called to be a disciple - a follower of Christ. We don’t need more denominational alliances —we need more true followers of Christ. Ask Yourself: • Am I more loyal to my denomination than to Jesus? • Is my faith based on biblical truth or just tradition? • Am I focused on making disciples or just defending my church tribe? • Do I look down on other Christians because they are from a different denomination? The Big Question - Has our denomination become a source of pride ? Check Your Heart If you believe your denomination is better than another , that’s pride . Your denomination does not make you closer to God. Your heart does. “The Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7, NKJV) So, What Tribe Do You Really Rep? At the end of the day, God won’t ask you if you were Baptist, Pentecostal, or Catholic —He will ask: • Did you follow Jesus? • Did you obey My Word? • Did you love Me with all your heart, soul, and mind? Let’s challenge ourselves to look beyond denominational lines and focus on what really matters: living as true disciples of Christ, shaped by Scripture, and united in His love and purpose. So, what tribe do you rep? Because if it’s not Jesus first, you might want to rethink it. 🎶 MUSIC TIME 🎵 1. Sinmidele – In Plain Sight A heavenly love song to God! The melody? Pure beauty. Perfect for kingdom weddings —dripping with divine love and presence. 2. Jaymikee – I Will Be There A wilderness anthem. Ever asked, “God, where are You?” This song gets it. Faith isn’t avoiding questions—it’s bringing them to God. Don’t be afraid to say, “Lord, help me understand.” Philip Mitchell on Hardly Initiated—get ready to laugh, cry, and get convicted all at once! He goes deep—like, all the way deep. It’s long, but trust me, it’ll shake you, challenge you, and change you. Don’t just take my word for it—watch for yourself: Click here

Back with the pen again! I told y’all—the Holy Spirit ain’t playing games with this writing! Today, we’re going there. This one is personal. Friendships. Let me just say—I’ve always been grateful for my friends. And if we’re keeping it real, I would classify myself as a great friend. No exaggeration. I go above and beyond for the people I care about—not because I want something in return, but because that’s just how God wired me. Some people aren’t used to good people, but we exist (lol). But truth be told, all my life, I thought I had hit the jackpot with friendships—until I started truly walking with God. Whew, let me tell you— everything changes when you decide to follow Jesus for real. It’s not just your habits, your lifestyle choices, or your desires. Your friendships will be impacted, too. We hear all the time about God having a destiny spouse for us, but do we ever stop to think that He also has destiny connections/ friendships ? Friendships that align with His purpose for our lives? Friendships and Purpose—It’s Deeper Than You Think. When I surrendered fully to God, my friendships shifted — drastically . My discernment got sharper, and I started seeing people for who they really were. I was in a season of brokenness, trying to pick up the pieces and follow God at the same time. And during that season? I found out some friends were gossiping about my situation— some of them still don’t know that I know . Yet, they would come and “check on me” like they actually cared. Now, if you know me, you know—I don’t know how to pretend . I had to forgive and move on because I was too focused on God to let drama distract me. I decided not to address the situation—not because I was scared or because I didn’t have the words (trust me, I had plenty to say). But I realized something: Addressing it wouldn’t fix it. See, this season was different for me. God was pulling me into a place of sensitivity, teaching me to pick my battles. Not everything needed my reaction—some things just needed my silence. Because let’s be real… when God is doing a deep work in you, the last thing you need is unnecessary distractions. I had to ask myself: Would this conversation bring clarity, or would it just drain me? Would addressing the situation actually help, or was it just my flesh wanting to defend itself? The truth is, when God is refining you, there’s a lot going on in the spirit that you can’t afford to be careless about. I had to protect my peace and stay focused. Sometimes, the real test isn’t in what you say—it’s in what you choose to leave unsaid. This season revealed something important: Some friends couldn’t stay with me. Because adversity will always show you who truly loves you. “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” (Proverbs 17:17) My circle shrank overnight . Some friends? They were never really my friends. Others? Bless their hearts, but we just weren’t aligned anymore. See, I was going through deep sanctification, dying to self, and pressing into God. But some of them were still living for the world . And when two people are walking in opposite directions, they can’t stay on the same path. “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3) I was living that verse. And when Jesus said, “If your right eye causes you to sin, cut it off” (Matthew 5:29), I took it literally. Anything that didn’t draw me closer to God had to go. No hesitation. I WASN’T PLAYING GAMES The Old You vs. The New You The truth? My friends didn’t recognize me anymore. They wanted the old me back. But that version of me had died . “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17) This is not me saying, “I’m better than them.” No, because I was once that friend —the one who was still caught up in the world while others were trying to walk with God. Years ago, I watched a friend leave our circle because they were getting serious about their faith. Back then, I didn’t understand it, but now? Now I get it completely . “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” (1 Corinthians 15:33) I would have corrupted that friend back then— not on purpose, not because I was evil or had bad intentions, but simply because I wasn’t ready to fully surrender to God. And if I’m honest? I would have probably pulled them back into things God was trying to pull them out of. Not because I meant to, but because my mindset wasn’t there yet. Sometimes, the wrong people in your life aren’t bad people—they’re just not fully surrendered to God. And an unsurrendered friend can be more dangerous than an outright enemy. Some friendships have expiration dates , and some are divinely assigned for a lifetime. But we must have the wisdom to know the difference. The Wilderness Season Will Separate You : When Silence Exposes Everything During this season, I was quiet —I mean, silent . This was new for me because I’m naturally a connector . I love bringing people together. But I learned something: People equate silence with depression. And when you’re silent, people start making up their own stories about you —which is really just gossip in disguise . No shade, just facts. But honestly? I didn’t care. I was so locked in with God that nothing else mattered. I was going through the fire, being refined and purified, and that’s something every true believer must go through. You cannot walk with God and keep holding hands with the world. At some point, you’ll have to make a pivotal decision. The Gift of Destiny Friendships I had some friends tell me, “I understand what you’re going through.” But the truth? Only two actually kinda understood —because they had been through their own season of consecration to a certain degree. You can’t fully understand something unless you’ve walked through it. During my wilderness season, God had to separate me —not because my old friends were bad , but because He was teaching me His ways . Some environments and relationships? I just wasn’t mature enough to handle yet. So, He kept me hidden and focused . But then, something beautiful happened. As I surrendered everything, God started sending divine connections. People who loved God. People who were on fire for Him. People who understood exactly what I was going through because they were walking it too. And let me tell you—those friendships? Are worth more than gold . I’d rather have one divine friendship than a thousand surface-level ones. We fellowship together . We serve together . We grow together . These are destiny friendships , and when God sends them, you protect them at all costs. Pray for Your Destiny Friendships We always pray for our destiny spouse , but do we pray for our destiny friends ? Because let me tell you— not everyone is supposed to walk with you . “Just because someone is good for you in one season doesn’t mean they will be good for you in another season.” Some of us are holding onto friendships that God never approved of. And we wonder why there’s so much turmoil in our lives. Some of us have turned our friendships into idols . That was me —I placed too much attachment on my friendships, and God had to strip me of that. “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.” (Luke 9:23) Sometimes, losing people is part of your promotion in the Spirit. A Word to My Friends If we were ever friends—whether we still are or not—I want you to know I have nothing but love for you. Even if we never cross paths again, my prayer is that you know God intimately , that you align with your divine purpose , and that you are surrounded by people who genuinely love you and want the best for you. I’m grateful for every season, every lesson, and every person that has crossed my path. But I’m also grateful for where God is taking me next. Let God handpick your people. Life will be so much more peaceful and aligned when you do. Because when you start truly walking with God? Not everyone can come. MUSIC TIME Alright, y’all—I’m starting something new at the end of my blogs. A song recommendation! If you know me, you know I love music. But let me be clear—I only listen to Christian hip-hop or upbeat music for recreation, not as worship music. There’s a difference. Worship is sacred. Sometimes, you just need a good beat without all the filth the world pumps out. Instead of saturating our ears with secular music (which, let’s be honest, is mostly trash these days—full of filth, perversion, and some other things I won’t dive into today). So today’s pick: Marcus Rogers – “Walking Kinda Different” & “Oil Music” First of all, these songs go hard! But more than that, Marcus Rogers’ testimony is powerful. The way God transformed his life is beautiful—he’s truly a holy man with a heart for God. Go check it out!

The Journey of Sanctification Begins with Forgiveness Whew! Let’s talk about it— forgiveness. That word alone can stir up so many emotions, especially when the wound runs deep. I’ll be honest—this was a sticky subject for me. I used to think forgiveness was easy because I’ve always been outspoken. If you wronged me, trust me, you’d know! My actions or words would make it clear. I don’t play games, and I don’t do fake. For the most part, I forgave easily because I confronted issues head-on. But what happens when the pain is so deep that even confronting it doesn’t bring peace? When the offense is beyond the “normal”? When you find yourself clinging to unforgiveness because the hurt is just that raw? But Forgive! The Breaking Point For years, I leaned on my own strength, my knowledge, my wisdom—even though I claimed to be a Christian. The Truth: God was only allowed into certain areas of my life. I had compartments—places where I let Him rule and places where I said, Nah, I got this, Lord. Then, life happened. A drastic, gut-wrenching event knocked me down so hard that I knew I couldn’t handle it alone. I tried therapy, but deep in my spirit, I felt my issue wasn’t just mental or emotional—it was spiritual . And let me tell you: no amount of therapy can solve a spiritual issue. No amount of therapy could fix a wound that needed divine healing. (That’s a whole other topic for another day—don’t get me started on how we try to fix spiritual wounds with worldly tools! We need kingdom-minded therapist rooted in the word of God who use Scripture to lead people into real healing) But back to forgiveness —I was shattered, confused, and carrying a heart so heavy I could barely function. I took my pain to God, daily , crying my eyes out . I clung to Psalm 147:3 —“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” I prayed, and then…I did it again. And again. But the struggle was real because this person had never acknowledged their wrongdoing to me. No apology. No remorse. Just pure, cold indifference. How do you forgive someone who doesn’t even care that they hurt you? Forgiveness Can Be Messy I thought I had forgiven. I prayed. I even said the words, Lord, I forgive them. But deep down? I hadn’t . God wasn’t letting me off the hook. He kept pressing me to pray for this person. And not just a quick prayer—I mean I prayed for them, sometimes more than I prayed for myself. That’s deep, right? Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:44— Pray for those that hurt you —became my reality. And let me tell you, forgiveness can be ugly. It’s not always rosy or cute, and it sure isn’t always easy. Some days, I had to force myself to say the words, I forgive them, Lord. Some days, I had to remind myself almost every hour. And then, the Lord took it a step further: He told me to stop talking about it. Wait, what? But, Lord, I need people to know what I went through! I need them to understand the depth of my pain! Granted, I wasn’t out here broadcasting the situation to everybody, but whew—I definitely wanted to vent to my close circle! I mean, come on, sometimes you just need to let it out, right? But the Lord said No. Silence. Sometimes, we feed our wounds by constantly rehearsing them. God had other plans. He wasn’t just dealing with my heart; He was disciplining my tongue too. Forgiveness Is About Obedience, Not Feelings God was teaching me true forgiveness—not based on my feelings , but on obedience . The Bible is plain and simple : “If you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Matthew 6:15) Period. No conditions. No exceptions. And looking back? I was being so self righteous . I was like Peter asking Jesus, “How many times should I forgive? Seven times?” (Matthew 18:21). I was out here trying to put a quota on forgiveness! But Jesus’ answer? “Seventy times seven.” Translation? There is no limit. There’s no way around it. It doesn’t matter if the person is sorry. It doesn’t matter if they deserve it. It doesn’t matter if they never change. YOU MUST FORGIVE! So even though I never got an apology— I forgave . Even though I was disrespected and embarrassed— I forgave . I had to walk the walk . And in doing so, I realized something powerful: Forgiveness was more for me than for them. As I obeyed, God began healing my heart. He pulled out the pain, the anger, the rejection, and the bitterness. He replaced them with freedom, peace, and joy. Many of us claim to be Christians, but unforgiveness is sitting in our hearts like a ticking time bomb. We justify it. We coddle it. We say, But you don’t know what they did! And God says, But do you know what YOU did? And I forgave you anyway. Jesus forgave us while we were still sinners. So what right do we have to withhold forgiveness from others? It is self-righteousness to think you can’t forgive someone. Deeper Revelations of Forgiveness Through true forgiveness, God transformed my prayer life. See, true prayer isn’t just about “God, give me this” —it’s about, “God, make me more like You and aligning with His Kingdom will” Lord, let what pleases You please me. Let what grieves You grieve me. Give me a heart to love and obey You. Align me with Your perfect will. As I forgave, God gave me a new heart, and a renewed mind. In the journey, there will be days when the memory of the pain creeps back in—uninvited, unexpected, and trying to reopen wounds God has already healed. But when that happens, you have to stand firm and remind yourself: I have forgiven, and I will continue to forgive. If you choose this mindset, soon the pain will be like it never happened. Forgiveness is not just a one-time event; it’s a daily decision. And as I walked through this process, something powerful started happening—the Lord began revealing deeper matters about my foundation/bloodline. See, a lot of us are dealing with issues that didn’t start with us . If you look closely, you’ll notice patterns running through families—divorce, unforgiveness/bitterness, no marriages, cancer, poverty, anger, mental illness and the list goes on. These things don’t just randomly appear; they’re spiritual patterns that need to be broken. And let me tell you— breaking generational patterns is not for the faint of heart . This battle isn’t won through just talk or natural means. It requires spiritual weapons; prayer, fasting, and the wisdom of God. We can’t afford to fight spiritual wars with carnal weapons. The moment we recognize that life is spiritual , half of our struggles will begin to make sense. That’s why so many people feel stuck—because they’re trying to fix spiritual problems with earthly solutions . This topic? Whew, it deserves a blog all on its own. But I must warn you—it’s not for the weak . It’s for warriors —for those who are ready to fight for their bloodline and refuse to let generational patterns have the final say. The Devil Feasts on Unforgiveness Another revelation the Lord gave me is that unforgiveness is an open door for the enemy . If we don’t shut that door, he will torment us with anger, resentment, and bitterness. He will keep playing the offense over and over in our minds until we see that person as the enemy instead of seeing them through God’s eyes. Ephesians 4:27 warns us: Do not give the devil a foothold. Forgiveness is how we slam the door in his face. What About Forgiving Yourself? I wasn’t planning to add this part to the post—it didn’t fit. But something in my spirit says it’s for someone. So here it is. Sometimes, the hardest person to forgive is… yourself. What happens when you’re the one who caused the pain? When you’ve made mistakes that haunt you? When you feel like you’ve messed up beyond repair? Listen, Jesus died for EVERY sin. There is no sin so deep that His grace can’t cover it. The devil will try to drown you in shame and guilt, but Romans 8:1 declares: There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. God is a Redeemer. A Restorer. A Healer. No matter what you’ve done, He is willing and ready to forgive you. But you must come to Him with a genuine, repentant heart (Psalm 51). David messed up BIG TIME—he committed adultery, orchestrated a murder, and tried to cover it all up. Yet, he was still called a man after God’s own heart . Why? Because he truly repented, and God restored him. The Choice Is Yours So, here’s the question: Will you hold on to the pain, or will you release it into God’s hands? Forgiveness doesn’t mean what they did was right. It doesn’t excuse the pain or erase the past. But it frees you from its grip . It stops the enemy from using that wound to control your emotions. Let today be the day you choose freedom. Take it to God. Lay it at His feet. Even if it takes time, commit to the process. The same God who healed my heart will heal yours too. And one day, you’ll look back and realize— what once broke you no longer has power over you. Let me leave you with this powerful quote: Someone once said, “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Think about that. Let it sink in. Who’s really suffering in the end?

Let’s start with a quick definition of an idol. Simply put, it’s anything—yes, anything—that you place your worship or admiration toward, whether it’s a physical object, a person, or something that takes up way too much space in your heart and mind. Now, most of us can quickly think of the obvious idols—Greek gods like Zeus or Athena, African deities like Oshun or Shango, or the “big sins” we hear about in church, like sexual immorality (porn, fornication, adultery and etc.) that take over our flesh and heart. But today, let’s talk about the sneaky idols—the ones that don’t come with a golden statue or a flashy name. These are the idols that quietly live in your heart, the ones that seem harmless but are slowly stealing your worship away from God. They don’t make a lot of noise, but trust me—they’re doing damage. So, let’s unpack this together. What are these hidden idols, and how are they taking over your life without you even realizing it? Keep reading, because it’s time to shine some light on the things we often overlook. You see, anything that takes priority over your love for God is an idol. And let me remind you of what Jesus called the greatest commandment: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment.” (Matthew 22:37-38) So, let’s make this personal—if you love something more than God, it’s a sin. Yep, that includes the things we don’t usually think of as “bad.” because it seems harmless. For example, that shopping addiction that keeps you from spending time with God—what do you think that is? (I know, I probably just hit a nerve with someone. Don’t worry; I’ve been there too!) The truth is, idols don’t always come wrapped in obvious rebellion. Sometimes they look like innocent habits or routines that slowly choke out your time, focus, and devotion to God. They might feel harmless, but they’re dangerous because they hinder your fellowship with God. I know this example might raise questions, and trust me, I hear you. Idolatry is a deep topic, and there’s so much more to say about it. Stay tuned because I’ll dive deeper into the dangers of idolatry in another post. For now, let this sink in: God desires all of your heart, soul, and mind—not just the leftovers after your “harmless” idols have had their share.

Love. A word we can’t stop singing about, writing about, and craving. But do we really get it? As Christians, we’re called to love everyone—our neighbors, our friends, even our enemies (and yes, sometimes our coffee too… ignore the corny joke!). So, I decided to dive deep into what love means in God’s eyes. I took a good look at love in the Bible (NKJV), and trust me, the journey was eye-opening. Fun Fact: The word “love” appears 322 times in NKJV. This isn’t some expert theological thesis—just a personal journey, a desire to be a diligent student of God’s Word ( 2 Timothy 2:15 ). And honestly, after three months of digging, I know I’ve only scratched the surface. But what I did find is worth sharing. Before diving into the important lessons, here’s a quick breakdown of my findings on love in the Bible: 1. Love as Obedience to God (about 76 verses) – Obeying God’s commands and keeping His Word. 2. Human Love (Eros & Relational Love) (about 45 verses) – Love between people, including romantic and relational love. 3. Love Leading to Blessings, Joy, Deliverance, Protection (about 39 verses) – God’s favor for those who love Him. 4. Descriptions of God’s Love (Not Based on Works) (about 15 verses) – God’s unconditional love for us. 5. Poetic Love for God (about 14 verses) – Expressions of love in worship and adoration. 6. Loving Evil / Judgment / No Love for God (about 19 verses) – The consequences of loving unrighteousness. 7. Hypocritical Love (about 6 verses) – False or insincere love. 8. Rhetorical Questions About Love (about 5 verses) – Verses that challenge us to reflect on love. 9. Miscellaneous Verses on Love (about 8 verses) – Other verses that don’t fit the above categories but still offer insight. Now, let’s dive into the lessons from these findings! God’s definition of love is radically different from the world’s. Love = Obedience to God This was the biggest revelation in my study. The Bible repeatedly shows that love for God is demonstrated by obedience —not just words or emotions. Let’s not sugarcoat it—God’s view of love isn’t just about warm feelings or emotional highs. The majority of verses I found emphasize that love, in God’s eyes, is directly tied to obedience . Here are just a few examples: • “But showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.” — Exodus 20:6 • “Therefore you shall love the Lord your God, and keep His charge, His statutes, His judgments, and His commandments always.” — Deuteronomy 11:1 • “If you love Me, keep My commandments.” — John 14:15 Over 50 verses connect love with keeping God’s Word, following His instructions, and being devoted to Him. Love isn’t just tingles, goosebumps, butterflies, or a powerful worship high—it’s a lifestyle of obedience to God. This might not be the world’s idea of love, but it’s God’s definition. True love, in His eyes, is rooted in devotion, obedience to His Word, and aligning our hearts with His will. So, when we say we love God, it’s more than words. Human Love vs. God’s Love One thing that really stood out during my study was the stark difference between human love and God’s love. Take Jacob and Samson, for example—both deeply in love, but their stories end very differently. Jacob put in seven years of hard work just to marry Rachel—driven by deep, relentless love (Genesis 29:20). But plot twist—on the big day, he didn’t get Rachel. He got Leah! Talk about a shocker. Laban, Rachel’s own father, pulled a fast one on him. Yet, despite the deception, Jacob didn’t walk away. He doubled down, working another seven years for Rachel. We often celebrate Joseph’s love for Rachel as the ultimate romance—he worked seven years (then another seven!) just to have her as his wife. It’s touching, it’s passionate, and by human standards, it’s beautiful. But let’s be real—Joseph wanted Rachel for himself. His love, though admirable, had a reward in mind. He endured for love, but his love still sought fulfillment for himself. On the other hand, there’s Samson, whose love for Delilah led him into betrayal, blindness, and ultimately, death (Judges 16:15). Now, let’s compare that to God’s love: • “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8) • “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” (John 15:13) Jesus didn’t love us because we were righteous, or worthy. No, He loved us while we were still sinners —while we were sinful, rebellious, unfaithful, and undeserving. There was nothing in us to attract His love, yet He laid down His life anyway. His love was sacrificial, unconditional, divine. No reward, no personal gain—just pure, selfless love that cost Him everything. Loving God = Walking in His Blessings Obedience is the heartbeat of love in Scripture, but there’s more— love also unlocks God’s favor, protection, and blessings. When we truly love God (not just with words, but with action), He surrounds us with His goodness. • “Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him.” — Psalm 91:14 • “All things work together for good to those who love God.” — Romans 8:28 Loving God doesn’t mean life is easy, but it does mean we are securely His—no matter what comes. God’s love is not a one-way street. When we love Him with all our hearts, He moves in ways we can’t even imagine. What About “Loving” the Wrong Things? Or Should I Say When Love Goes Wrong What you love shapes your life . That might sound dramatic, but Scripture makes it clear— love can lead to life, or it can lead to destruction. It all depends on who or what holds your heart. God warns us about misplaced love —when we cling to the wrong things: • Loving evil instead of righteousness ( Psalm 52:3, John 3:19 ) • Loving money instead of God ( 1 Timothy 6:10 ) • Loving the world instead of His kingdom ( 1 John 2:15 ) And the consequences? Spiritual blindness, hardened hearts, and separation from God. Jesus Himself said: • “Because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold.” — Matt 24:12 • “They loved the praise of men more than the praise of God.” — John 12:43 This hit me hard. Love isn’t neutral —it steers our choices, our priorities, and ultimately, our eternity. What you love will either pull you closer to God or push you further away. So, What’s the Takeaway? If I had to sum up my study in one line, it’s this: Loving God isn’t just about feelings—it’s about obedience.  The world says love is an emotion, but for God, it’s not only about emotion—it’s about devotion, and honor to His Word. Love isn’t just said; it’s lived! This study humbled me. I know I haven’t figured it all out—far from it! But I trust the Holy Spirit to keep teaching me, opening my eyes to even deeper truths about love. My prayer is that we all seek to love God’s way , not just play along with the world’s definition. Let’s not just talk about love—let’s live it the way God defines it.

For the longest time, I thought God had favorites. You know, those people who always seemed to have their prayers answered, walked in supernatural encounters, had open visions, and prophesied like they were chatting with heaven on speed dial. They spoke with boldness, carried divine wisdom, and moved in the power of the Holy Spirit. Meanwhile, I was over here struggling, feeling like my spiritual walk was inconsistent—sometimes God answered, sometimes He didn’t. Sometimes I felt Him, sometimes I didn’t. My connection with God felt more like weak phone signal—choppy, unclear, and full of static. I figured, “God must have favorites.” But the truth? It wasn’t favoritism—it was intimacy. I Was a User, Not a Seeker Looking back, I realized my relationship with God was transactional. I sought Him only when I needed something, not because I truly wanted to know Him. I was like that friend who only calls when they need a favor. Imagine having someone like that in your life! No real connection, no genuine relationship—just take, take, take. I wanted blessings, breakthroughs, and answers, but I wasn’t pursuing Him to know His heart. On top of that, I was in sin. Let me say this loud and clear: sin dulls your ability to hear God, especially sexual sin. The Bible is clear in 1 Corinthians 6:18 : “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” Your spirit is the channel through which the Holy Spirit speaks. But if we’re constantly feeding our flesh with sin instead of nurturing our spirit with the Word of God, how can we expect to hear Him? It’s like expecting Wi-Fi to work in a dead zone. Galatians 6:7-9 warns us: “Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.” The people I admired weren’t just “lucky” or “God’s favorites.” They were holy and consecrated . They spent intentional time with God daily, not because they wanted something, but because they desired Him. They honored His presence, feared the Lord, and lived in obedience. They weren’t perfect, but they were passionate pursuers of Jesus . Jesus Wants a Date, Not Just a Group Hangout!” – Intimacy vs. Corporate Gathering To be honest, I used to let corporate gatherings take over my personal time with God. I’d show up at church, pray with everyone, and walk away feeling like I had met my “God quota” for the week. But let’s be real—that’s not intimacy, that’s just participation. Attending a prayer meeting—whether daily or weekly—doesn’t count as personal time with God. That’s corporate prayer, not private communion. Imagine going on a date, and your date shows up with ten other people—yeah, awkward! In the same way, we can’t allow group prayers to replace personal time with God. Your one-on-one time with Him must come first because that’s where real transformation happens. You won’t truly know God just by being in the crowd. For me, everything changed when I started pursuing God intimately—beyond what my pastor said, beyond Sunday church routines, corporate prayers, and gathering. It wasn’t about anyone else; it was just me and God. And when I did that, I stepped into a new level of anointing and understanding. Like one of my favorite teacher says, “We’re supposed to explore God.” And that’s exactly what I was doing—exploring Him, discovering new depths of His nature, and experiencing Him in ways I never had before. Now, don’t get me wrong—corporate gatherings aren’t bad! Fellowship with other believers is a gift. But the problem comes when that’s the only time we spend with God. If we want to truly know Him, we have to seek Him for ourselves, outside of the crowd, in the secret place where He reveals Himself personally. God has set a divine order for our priorities, and if we want to walk right with Him, we need to align ourselves with it! Personal time with Him must come first—no matter how much or how little time you have. Think of it like this: intimacy with God is the foundation of your entire walk—if that part is weak, everything else will crumble. Church, ministry, fellowship—all of it flows from your personal relationship with Him. Get that in order, and everything else will fall into place! Promises With Conditions Another game-changer for me was realizing that most of God’s promises come with conditions . We love to quote verses about blessings, but we don’t always pay attention to the context or conditions attached. • Isaiah 54:17 – “No weapon formed against you shall prosper…” Sounds great, right? But the full verse says, “This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord.” The promise is for His servants —those actively following Him. • Deuteronomy 28:1-10 – The blessings in this passage are only for those who fully obey the Lord and carefully follow His commands. • Psalm 112:1-2 – “Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in His commandments.” The blessing is tied to the fear of the Lord and obedience to His Word. • Matthew 6:33 – “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” We love the part about “all these things” being added, but do we prioritize seeking His kingdom and righteousness first ? Many of us want the blessings but don’t want the obedience . We claim promises but don’t follow the conditions attached. God isn’t playing favorites—He’s rewarding faithfulness. Are You Ignoring the Instructions? If you feel distant from God, ask yourself: 1. Am I truly seeking Him, or just what He can do for me? 2. Am I living in obedience, or am I picking and choosing what I want to follow? 3. Am I making room for intimacy, or just fitting God into my schedule when it’s convenient? At one point, I was searching for scriptures that didn’t require obedience —just blessings with no conditions. Let me tell you, that was a hard search! Most of God’s promises require faithfulness, holiness, and pursuit. Comfortable Christianity won’t get you there. Final Call: Pursue Intimacy, Not Just Blessings God is not partial, but He is just. He rewards those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6). The difference between those who experience more of God and those who don’t is not favoritism—it’s intimacy . So the real question is: Are you missing out on the move of God because of ignorance or negligence to His commandments? Are you expecting divine rewards without divine relationship ? It’s time to pick up your Bible, make it your best friend, and start walking in true obedience. Your intimacy with God will determine your experience of Him. God has no favorites—just intimates. Will you be one of them?

Welcome back, family! Today, we’re diving deep into something that’s not just close to my heart—but even closer to my King’s. This isn’t just another lesson; it’s a call to realignment, a wake-up call to step into something deeper with God. So lean in, open your heart, and let’s go after truth together! In my last post, I pointed out that these days it’s getting harder to tell the difference between an average Christian and an unbeliever. We seem to share the same sins, ideologies, and even perspectives. The only thing that sets us apart is the “Christian” label we cling to. But what happens when Christianity becomes nothing more than a title, rather than a way of life? We blend in. We conform. We justify sin in the name of grace. And worst of all, we have stopped preaching the whole gospel—the one that calls us to holiness and righteousness, not just mercy and blessings. But here’s the truth: Christianity is not a title; it’s a way of life. Jesus never called us to be churchgoers; He called us to be disciples. Salvation Is Just the Beginning—What Comes Next? For so long, I thought accepting Christ was enough. Like many of us, I had an emotional experience at the altar, cried my eyes out, and felt changed—for a moment. But after a few months, I found myself back in the same cycle. Not doing anything “crazy” by the world’s standards, but still compromising, still blending in, still lukewarm. Why? Because I had accepted Jesus as Savior but not as Lord. I wanted His rescue, but not His rule. My decision to follow God was purely emotional—based on a moment, a feeling, an experience. And let’s be real, emotions are about as stable as the weather. One day you’re on fire for God, the next day you’re back in old cycles because the “feeling” faded. But here’s the truth: anything built on emotions alone will always be unstable. A relationship with God that’s driven by feelings will never stand the test of time. Why? Because emotions shift, but Lordship requires surrender—daily consistency, even when you don’t feel like it. Following Jesus isn’t about riding an emotional high; it’s about committing to Him even when the feelings aren’t there. True transformation happens when you move beyond emotion and into obedience. Nobody told me that salvation is just the doorway, but discipleship is the journey. The Bible says: “Work out your salvation with fear and trembling.” —Philippians 2:12 We don’t just receive salvation and then sit back, doing whatever we please. We have to walk it out —daily. The Church Without Transformation Look around. Churches are full, but transformation is rare. We have churchgoers who have been there for years but are still gossiping, still bitter, still envious, still caught in the same sins. Why? Because they’ve accepted a version of Christianity that allows them to have Jesus on their terms. “I want Jesus, but I still want to fornicate sometimes.” “I want Jesus, but I’ll still get drunk here and there.” “I want Jesus, but I’m still going to watch what I know I shouldn’t.” We want Jesus and our sin. But the gospel doesn’t work that way. Jesus isn’t just the Lamb; He is also the Lion. He is merciful, but He is also Judge. And we don’t get to choose which side of Him we want. “Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.” —Ephesians 4:24 Holiness and righteousness—two words the modern church avoids preaching, but without them, we are preaching an incomplete gospel. My Wake-Up Call: From Lukewarm to All In I knew of God for years, but I didn’t know Him. Then in 2023, life hit me so hard that I had no choice but to run to Jesus. For the first time, I wasn’t just experiencing God emotionally—I was encountering Him completely. Surrender wasn’t easy. He started asking me to let go of things—friendships, habits, goals, desires. Things I thought were harmless. But as I laid them down, I realized something: God wasn’t taking things away from me to punish me. He was stripping away the distractions so I could finally see Him clearly. And as I surrendered, my desires changed. The things I once loved didn’t satisfy me anymore. Instead of binge-watching TV, I found myself binge-reading the Bible. Instead of craving social media, I craved His presence. I read my Bible from Genesis to Revelation multiple times. I, the girl who hated reading, devoured over 20 spiritual books in a year. That wasn’t my doing—it was evidence of the transformative power of grace. When Jesus becomes Lord , He takes over every area of your life. It’s uncomfortable at first because your flesh will resist it, but trust me—it’s the best thing that can happen to you. What True Discipleship Looks Like Salvation is the invitation. Discipleship is the journey. Too many of us stop at salvation because no one teaches us the next step. But if you truly want to follow Jesus, you must: 1. Make the Bible Your Daily Bread – You can’t grow in Christ if you’re spiritually starving. Read it daily, not just when you feel like it. Schedule a daily time you meet with God consistently like an appointment - I’ll discuss the importance of this in another post and dive into the topics of covenant time, priesthood and altars. 2. Pray Without Ceasing – Prayer isn’t just for emergencies; it’s your lifeline . 3. Find a Fellowship That Challenges You – Surround yourself with people who are serious about God. Not perfect people, but people who are pursuing Him. 4. Obey, Even When It Costs You – Walking with God means letting go of things that don’t align with Him. Yes, it will cost you, but trust me—what He gives in return is far greater. No More Playing Church—It’s Time to Follow Jesus Friends, accepting Christ as your Savior is just the beginning. Emotions will always ebb and flow, but if your relationship with God is based solely on feelings, it’s bound to be unstable. Walking with Him is about commitment and consistency. It’s about making Jesus the Lord of every area of your life—your mind, your actions, your very being. True transformation doesn’t come from an emotional high or the comfort of a Sunday service routine—it comes from a complete surrender to His will. It’s about stepping up and living out a full, holistic, and disciplined walk with God. It’s time to move from mere salvation to true discipleship. Because the reality is, Jesus doesn’t want fans—He wants disciples. Following Him will cost you everything you once held dear, but in losing everything, you gain Him. Let’s stop settling for lukewarm and start living a life that truly reflects the Kingdom. The journey won’t be easy, but it’s the only path that leads to a deeper, unshakeable relationship with the One who loves you more than anything. The call is clear—will you answer it?

I’m not going to lie—I used to run from the word holy. It scared me. Holiness, to me, felt like some impossible standard of perfection that only a select few could attain—those “Mary Amaka” types (for my Nigerians, you know what I mean). I thought holiness meant being a goody two-shoes, a religious rule-follower, the kind of person who never had fun. Holiness? That wasn’t for me. I was too flawed, too messy, too… human. See , I lived a double life. Sunday morning, I was in church, hands lifted, singing Jesus is my Savior. But by Friday night? I was deep in the mix—partying, gossiping, entertaining sin like it was my best friend. I downplayed holiness because, honestly, I didn’t understand it fully. But once I started to read my Bible. And slowly, I realized something—holiness isn’t perfection; it’s being set apart. Holiness Is Not an Option—It’s a Command “Be holy, for I am holy.” —1 Peter 1:16 Notice how that verse doesn’t say “try” to be holy. It doesn’t say “if you feel like it” be holy. It says BE HOLY—straight up, no negotiations. Holiness is the standard because Jesus is the standard. We are made in His image, and if He is holy, then we ought to be holy too. At first, that scared me. But the more I walked with God, the more I realized that holiness isn’t about performing or pretending. It’s about choosing God’s ways over the world’s ways in every area of life—what you watch, what you listen to, how you speak, how you treat people, how you run your business, how you handle your emotions. Holiness is saying yes to God, even when it’s inconvenient or unpopular. Holiness Is Not Just About Sexual Purity Let’s be real—when most people hear “holiness,” their minds immediately go to don’t have sex before marriage, don’t watch porn, don’t be lustful. And yes, that’s part of it. But holiness is so much deeper. Paul tells us in Romans 12:1: “I appeal to you, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.” Our whole lives are meant to be lived in holiness—including how we care for our physical bodies. Some of us don’t struggle with sexual immorality, but we are completely reckless with our health. We consume junk, don’t exercise, and then pray for long life—make it make sense! Look at Daniel—when he was in Babylon, he refused to eat the king’s rich food and chose a simple diet of vegetables and water. After ten days, he and his friends looked stronger and healthier than the others (Daniel 1:8-14). Daniel’s choice was an act of holiness—he set himself apart even in his diet. What we consume physically matters. This hit me hard because, truth be told, I’ve neglected my own health at times. But holiness is holistic—it’s about honoring God in every part of life, including what we put in our bodies. Holiness in How We Handle Our Emotions Another area we don’t often talk about? Let’s be real—people do dumb things. And sometimes, you have every right to be angry. But Ephesians 4:26-27 reminds us: “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.” Holiness is choosing the way of the Word of God over the way of your feelings. You might feel like holding onto that grudge, staying bitter, or exploding in rage. But holiness says, “I’ll forgive when I don’t feel like it.” Your Eye Gate—What Are You Watching? I used to be a TV show addict. I prided myself on knowing every trending show. I thought, It’s just entertainment, it’s not that deep. I was consuming hours of entertainment filled with lust, violence, rebellion, witchcraft, and godless values. And I didn’t see a problem. Then, God convicted me. Matthew 6:22 says: “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light.” Holiness means being set apart even in what we watch. If we constantly feed ourselves unclean content, we can’t expect to be full of light. What we consume shapes our thoughts, desires, and actions . At first, I struggled. My “taste buds” were so used to worldly entertainment that Godly content felt boring. But over time, God changed my appetite. Now, I crave things that align with Him. Grace Empowers Us To Be Holy Here’s the key—holiness isn’t about striving in our own strength. It’s about leaning on grace. “But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness.” —Romans 6:22 Grace is not a license to live however we want and say, God knows my heart. No! Grace empowers us to live holy. Jesus didn’t just save us from sin; He saved us into a new way of life. Final Charge: Live Set Apart Holiness is not just for pastors, church leaders, or “super spiritual” people. It’s for everyone who calls Jesus Lord. Holiness is not just about the “big sins”—it’s about everyday choices. It’s about: ✔ How you think ✔ How you speak ✔ How you treat others ✔ How you use your time ✔ What you watch, listen to, and engage in It’s about choosing God’s ways over culture’s trends or worldly values. So, I leave you with this challenge: Be holy. Be set apart.  In your thoughts, your habits, your relationships, your daily decisions.. Holiness is not just a Sunday thing—it’s a lifestyle. And the beautiful thing? As we walk in holiness, we experience more of God’s power, grace, and presence in our lives. So, will you answer the call? Will you choose holiness today?