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A wake-up call for a generation that loves church culture more than Christ. I know, I know — you saw the title and probably tilted your head like, “Uhhhn, what is she talking about?!” Sounds controversial. Sounds like I need to explain myself. Don’t worry, I got you. Before anyone gets worked up, let’s define what we mean by church . • The church : The people — the believers — the body of Christ. • The church : The structure, the system, the programs, the services, the Sunday routine. In this blog, I’m speaking about the structure and system. Yes, the church as a gathering is beautiful — a place for fellowship, for equipping, for sharpening. But hear me clearly: **The church system is not the answer. Jesus Christ is the answer.** And we’ve blurred the line so much that many don’t even know the difference anymore. Let’s talk honestly about the areas where we, as the church, are falling short. When the System Replaces the Savior Our culture has glorified church culture more than Christ Himself. People can recite church traditions, but can’t quote Christ’s words. They know: • Go to church on Sunday • Pay your tithe • Sow your seed • Attend the conference • Watch the livestream …but they don’t know Jesus . Going to church does not equal knowing Christ. You can attend weekly and still be spiritually dry, disconnected, and untransformed. Hebrews warns us that not every “church” is even registered in heaven (Hebrews 12:23). So it’s possible the church you’re attending isn’t approved or ordained by God at all… but that’s a conversation for another day. And here’s the hard truth: People love the church system more than they love Jesus (The Word). John 1 says clearly — In the beginning was the Word… and the Word was God. A church can become an idol. YES — you read that correctly. If anything takes your focus off Jesus, it is an idol. The greatest commandment wasn’t: “Love your church with all your heart.” It was: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart.” A Corrupted Foundation Somewhere along the line, the system shifted. What was meant to point to Jesus started pointing back to itself. What we hear in many places is: “Come to church so we can pray for you,” instead of yes, we can pray for you but we also encourage you to “Go into your secret place — learn to commune with Jesus yourself.” The system often emphasizes activity over intimacy . Programs over presence. Membership over relationship. Attendance over discipleship. Yes, the System Can Be Corrupted — It Has Happened Before Look at Luke’s account of John the Baptist’s birth (Luke 1). John came from a priestly lineage — Levites, descendants of Aaron. According to tradition, he should have been raised in the temple system. But God kept him out  of the system. Why? Because it was corrupted. During that time, there were two high priests: • Annas (appointed by Romans) • Caiaphas (from the priestly line) Rome had NO business choosing a priest. The system had become political, compromised, misaligned. So what did God do? He raised a prophet outside the system , in the wilderness, to confront the system and prepare the way for Christ. History is repeating itself. The Church’s Blind Spot: Intimacy + Discipleship This is the issue killing believers softly. Most churches do not: • Highlight personal intimacy with Christ • Teach believers how to walk out salvation with fear and trembling • Model true discipleship If we taught intimacy properly — daily devotion, daily Word, spiritual discipline, obedience — believers would mature. And if they matured, half the “tithe and offering announcement pressure” in church wouldn’t be needed. We wouldn’t have to force people to give. We wouldn’t have to twist arms about tithes and offerings. We wouldn’t have to shout THESE reminders every service. Why do we keep making the minor the major ? How is it that tithes and offerings  get the loudest and most consistent announcement every Sunday… yet intimacy with God  is barely emphasized? For example, why don’t we hear reminders like, “Yes, you came to church today, but true fellowship happens outside the building—stay in your Word daily.” “Train up a child in the way they should go…” Proverbs 22:6 (Yes, we can apply this verse — a shepherd cares for and guides the flock, almost like a parent watching over their children.) We love to quote this, but the church rarely applies it to believers. If we truly train people in the right way, they’ll naturally walk in it by God’s grace. As a believer matures in intimacy with Jesus, tithes and offerings (giving) stop feeling like a chore. They become a joyful responsibility. Mature believers don’t wait to be pushed — they’re the ones asking the church, “What do we need? How can I help? Because when someone starts following the heart of Christ, they begin meeting what matters to Him. A Sick Body with Missing Parts The body of Christ today is sick — not because Christ is weak, but because many members never grow. Some believers are fully developed in one area, half-developed in another, and non-existent in others. Imagine a body where ( 1 Corinthians 12:15–21 ): • The eyes work perfectly, • But the ears barely function, • And the nose doesn’t work at all. The strain would be unbearable. That is the state of the church — people not functioning in their God-given roles because they haven’t spent time in the secret place to receive identity, purpose, and their divine blueprint. The church has to shift its focus toward raising equipped believers—people who can explore God and hear His voice for themselves. The pastor cannot be the only one hearing from God. That’s unhealthy… and it’s unbiblical. Remember God’s promise: “I will pour out my Spirit on all flesh…” (Joel 2:28) Not on just pastors. Not on only leaders. On all  believers. **I’m Not Saying “Don’t Go to Church.” I’m Saying: Don’t Worship the System.** It’s sad that many church systems today are running on: • Business models • Traditions • Emotions • Entertainment • Activities • Human hierarchy …instead of Scripture, Spirit, and Truth. Your faith is in Jesus , not in a church building. Not attending on Sunday doesn’t send you to hell. The issue is this: Is your heart anchored in Christ or in church system? Jesus is the answer. Everything else — church, sermons, services — are resources . Tools. Not the source. I’ll end with this. Our Gatherings Must Be About Jesus — Not Idols Church is not a wish-factory. Not a miracle vending machine. Not a stage to fulfill the idols of our hearts. The focus should be: • Building mature believers • Training people to hear God’s voice • Raising disciples, not fans or dependents • Equipping every believer to play their God-given role If we were truly equipped, our gatherings would shake heaven. We would see dimensions of God’s glory that the early church saw. It ’s never been about numbers — it’s about maturity of the believer. I believe God is raising men and women who will correct the errors of the modern church system — not by rebellion, but by returning to the biblical standard . “I believe the Acts-movement church is coming back. And when it does, it won’t look like tradition — it will look like the church Jesus intended. There’s so much more I could say… but I’ll pause here. Until next time — stay rooted, stay grounded, stay burning. Music time! 🎵 Marcus Rogers –On Fire: A pure revival anthem. This one will shoot you straight into the Father’s heart. Consecrate me, Lord. 🎵 Forrest Frank – God’s Got My Back: A daily reminder that you’re covered, protected, and carried.

An honest look at the quiet epidemic in today’s church. Alright, family… we need to pause for a second and get honest. Because something is going on in the church, and it’s not small. It’s loud, it’s growing, and it needs serious attention. There’s an epidemic in the house of God… and it’s time we talk about it. We are obsessed with winning souls. And listen, that’s beautiful. Heaven throws a whole party when one soul gives their life to Christ ( Luke 15:10 ) That moment is precious. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: We win souls… and then we leave a gaping hole where discipleship and personal intimacy should be. People give their lives to Jesus, show up on Sundays, attend a few activities, maybe serve — and yet no one teaches them what life in Christ truly looks like. No one walks them through transformation. No one sits with them or shows them the true model of discipleship. And because of this, we’ve created something dangerous: unbelieving believers. I know — it sounds wild. But look around. We’ve blended in so smoothly with the culture that you can barely tell a believer from an unbeliever anymore. Same habits. Same moral lines. Same perverted entertainment. Same lustful music. Same fornication, cheating, gossip, unforgiveness, shady business and the list goes on — all wrapped in a “Christian” bow. The problem? There was no true transformation. We came into the church, but we never truly came out of the world. The Bible already told us plainly, “Come out from among them ( the world) and be separate…” (2 Corinthians 6:17). But who is teaching us how to actually do that? Who is modeling it? Who is shepherding souls into godly habits, devotion, holiness, obedience, discipline, and intimacy with Jesus? And before anyone asks, “Why are you coming for the church?” — I’ll tell you. I have three reasons. 1. The Church Has a Mandate to Teach Believers How to Come Out of the World The church is supposed to be the greenhouse where new believers grow into mature disciples — not a spiritual lounge where we just sit and clap on Sundays. Yet the average Christian doesn’t read their Bible, isn’t encouraged to study their Bible, and doesn’t know the God they claim to follow. My favorite line still stands: “How can you follow a God you don’t know? And how can you know Him if you don’t read His Word?” If you don’t know His Word, you won’t know His standards. If you don’t know His standards, you won’t understand His ways. And here’s the kicker — Jesus didn’t tell us: “Go win souls only .” He said, “Go therefore and make disciples…” (Matthew 28:19). Winning souls is only step one. If we don’t lead them into discipleship, intimacy, and obedience, it’s an incomplete assignment — and an incomplete assignment is still an F. We cannot pat ourselves on the back because someone repeated a salvation prayer. That’s the doorway — not the destination. The church must build systems and structures that emphasize: • daily personal intimacy with Jesus • biblical discipleship • obedience and transformation • “working out your salvation with fear and trembling” (Philippians 2:12) Sunday services alone cannot do this. Midweek services alone cannot do this. This requires intentional discipleship — the kind Jesus Himself modeled. 2. The Church Is Feeding Believers Milk… and Calling It Meat There is a hierarchy in Scripture — spiritual growth has stages. The Bible says, “Like newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the word…” (1 Peter 2:2). And later, “You should be eating meat by now…” (Hebrews 5:12–14). Just like babies crawl before they walk, believers need foundational teachings before advanced teachings. But what do we do? We skip the crawling stage. We hand out sermons meant for “walking Christians” while the newborns are starving on the floor. And another problem — oh boy — is our obsession with the hyper grace message. Don’t get me wrong… grace is beautiful. Transformational. Essential. But if all you preach is grace ( in wrong context) , and you avoid topics like: • holiness • righteousness • justice • obedience • dying to self • discipline • the fear of God …you create a spiritually sick believer. A malnourished Christian. A person living on one vitamin when God provided a whole pantry. Balance is necessary for growth. 3. The Church Has Made the Minor the Major We love preaching about: • marriage • business • finances • kingdom entrepreneurship All wonderful topics. All necessary. But here’s the truth… How can someone run a godly home when their foundation in Christ is shaky? How can they build a kingdom business when their spiritual roots are shallow? We’re trying to teach people how to run before teaching them how to crawl. Where are the conferences on: • discipleship • personal intimacy with Jesus • surrender • seeking the will of God • pruning • sanctification • suffering as a believer • dying daily • carrying your cross These are the messages that form a believer’s backbone. These are the topics that build spiritual endurance. These are the truths that separate disciples from churchgoers. If all the church tells people is “come to church, come to church, come to church,” but never teaches them how to walk with Jesus outside of church, we have a big problem. The church must create biblical discipleship structures that help believers cultivate consistent, personal intimacy with God — not just attendance, not just activities, not just events. Final Thought Winning souls is beautiful. Necessary. Heaven celebrates it. But heaven also expects transformation. Heaven expects disciples. Heaven expects a people that reflect Jesus — not blend with the world. We don’t just need more Christians. We need more disciples. And disciples aren’t made in a moment. They’re made through devotion. Through intimacy. Through teaching. Through surrender. Through process. Through daily fellowship with the One who saved them. May the church arise to do the full work — not just win souls, but form disciples . Because that’s the heart of Jesus. And that’s the only way the world will truly see Him through us. Music time! 🎵“This Is War” – Sound of Salem My go-to when I just need to dance, praise, and remind the enemy I didn’t come to play. 🎵“Earthen Vessel” – Theophilus Sunday This is my mindset right now — just gliding, surrendered, and letting Holy Spirit break out of me!

I need you to read this not with offense, not with pride, but with an open heart.  Don’t skim this like another blog you’ll forget by dinner. I’m writing this with tears in my spirit and fire in my bones. This isn’t content—it’s a cry. My calling is to turn the hearts of God’s people back to Him. I’m just a voice in the wilderness, not here to tickle ears but to speak truth and spare none (Isaiah 58:1). So let’s get into it. 😬 The Average Believer Today? Out of Alignment. Let’s be real—we are living in a time where too many believers are lukewarm and don’t even know it.  A culture where most Christians aren’t in right standing with God. They confuse material and worldly  success with God’s approval , forgetting that the devil knows how to bless too. Yep, not every open door is from God, and not every “win” is God-approved. In God’s eyes, true success isn’t about the number in your bank account, the size of your business, or the praise of people. It’s about the quality of your transformation —how much you’re being shaped into the image of Christ. Because only through transformation can you walk in divine purpose. 📖 Let Me Tell You About a Friend I have a dear friend. Let’s call him “J.” Golden heart. Kind to the poor. Successful. Charming. Generous. Smart. Always checking in on folks. Got businesses, influence—you name it. You’d probably love him if you met him. Honestly? I love him too. Sounds great, right? But he’s not in right standing with God. He is still coasting spiritually. He knows of God… but hasn’t truly surrendered to God. He wears the label “Christian,” but his life doesn’t reflect true Lordship. He’s fornicating, getting drunk, living in rebellion,  while thinking he’s okay because life is “good.”I’m not going to lie to him—or to you. He is not in alignment! The Lie We Tell Ourselves Recently, we were catching up, and out of nowhere I found myself saying: “ God is calling you higher, but you’re not listening. ” I could see the confusion in his eyes—because to him, everything looked fine. People applaud him. Life is good. He’s “blessed,” right? But here’s the truth: You can be celebrated by the world and still rejected by God. Because obedience , not applause, is what pleases God. We’ve started mistaking people’s applause for God’s approval. Just because your family and friends cheered you on doesn’t mean God co-signed the plan. Let’s be real—sometimes even the people closest to us aren’t judging by biblical standards, but by their own standards. Approval from loved ones feels good, but God’s approval is what truly matters. 💔 Having a Good Heart Isn’t Enough Let’s stop right here. Having a good heart or good intentions doesn’t make you right with God. What keeps you in right standing with Him is obedience . Jesus said it plainly: “If you love Me, keep My commandments.” — John 14:15 You say you love God, but you don’t pray to Him daily . You don’t read His Word daily . You don’t obey His voice. But you spend hours in the gym, on your business, scrolling on social media , or on FaceTime. Your time tells the truth about your priorities. If you’re giving more energy to building your body, brand, families, or relationship than building your spirit, God obviously doesn’t have your heart. The truth: Your priorities are off. 💡 Disciplined in Everything… Except What Matters Most This one might sting, but it’s true. Many of us are disciplined in every area —We show up early to work, go hard in the gym, stay consistent in our dating life—but when it comes to God? We’re lazy. We’re distracted. We’re lukewarm — our relationship with God is on life support. That’s a dangerous place to be. Because  everything that’s not rooted in Christ will eventually crumble. That marriage? That engagement? That business? That dream? That Career? If God’s not the foundation, it’s just a matter of time. I know because I’ve been there. I used to put everything—my relationships, career, even family—above Him. It took a painful, heart-wrenching moment to finally shake me and bring me back into alignment. Friend, don’t let pain be your only teacher. It doesn’t have to be that way. 🚨 Don’t Mistake God’s Mercy for His Approval: God’s Mercy ≠ God’s Endorsement Here’s the part that gets twisted : Many think they’re “good” with God because we think because God hasn’t judged us yet, he must be okay with our choices. No. He’s just patient. God is patient, not because He’s okay with our lifestyle, but because He’s giving us; Time to wake up. Time to turn around. Time to Repent! Don’t confuse God’s silence and mercy for approval! Israel made the same mistake. They had over 400 years to get it right. God sent warning after warning. They had wealth, growth, prosperity—but no true repentance. Eventually, they reaped what they sowed: captivity . “Because you did not listen… this whole land shall become a ruin… and these nations shall serve the king of Babylon seventy years.” — Jeremiah 25:8-11 Don’t be another repeat of history. ✂️ Cut It Off Before It Costs You Everything This Is the Line in the Sand It’s time to stop justifying sin with “I’m not perfect.” If you’re still stuck in: • Fornication • Drunkenness • Porn • Masturbation • Pride • Jealousy • Rebellion …then now is the time to repent . Not tomorrow. Not next year. Now . What does it profit a man to gain the world but lose his soul? (Mark 8:36) And let me be clear—“the world” isn’t just money. It’s anything—even good things like marriage, relationships, and family—that distract you from God. Anything that keeps you from growing in Him is a threat to your calling! Set your priorities right! God must come first! 🔁 Stop the Cycle Before It Destroys You You can’t keep crying and repenting while never truly changing. That’s not repentance. That’s a cycle. “God is not mocked. Whatsoever a man sows, that will he also reap.” — Galatians 6:7 You keep sowing to the flesh—expect chaos.. That looks like: • Instability & Double mindedness • Broken relationships • Anxiety • Restlessness • Confusion & Emptiness • Lack of peace That’s the harvest  and reward of a life lived  outside of God’s will! 💬 Final Words: You’ve Been Warned. In Love. This is not judgment. This is love . “Whom the Lord loves, He chastens.” — Hebrews 12:6.                                     It’s Now or Never God is not playing games in this hour. And neither should we. If you’ve been  inconsistent and double-minded— this is your wake-up call . Get serious. Get in your Word. Get on your knees. Get in His presence. Let your actions match your confession. He’s not asking for perfection. He’s asking for your heart and surrender! So here it is: Choose Him. Choose to go all in . Before it’s too late. Don’t wait until pain has to teach you what the Word already revealed. 🎧 MUSIC TIME! Track: Movement Artists: Tjsarx, Tbabz, 678nath This one hits different — it’s not just a song, it’s a movement . It’s the anthem for anyone walking out their transformation in Christ. 🔥 Track: My First Love Artist: Afolake This one will pull on your heartstrings — a gentle, holy reminder that we were His first love before we ever knew how to love back. 💫

HEY FAM! If you haven’t heard yet — I host special events ( I call them love feasts) for those in need. A calling to pour love, joy, and dignity into the lives of His beloved — the overlooked, the hurting, the precious ones on His heart. 👉 CHECK US OUT: afeastforhisbeloved.com By God’s grace, our next feast is already in motion! We’re partnering with a shelter that supports families experiencing homelessness, and we’re planning something truly beautiful. We’re bringing in: ✨ A Dessert Table that’ll make your sweet tooth dance ✨ Face painting & nail stations for that pampering touch ✨ A Bubble Station, Photo Booth, and game areas for the kiddos ✨ An Ice Cream Truck, Candy Floss, Popcorn, and more! Because excellence isn’t just for galas — it’s for God’s beloved, too. And here’s where you come in. Normally, I cover these costs myself — but this time, the Lord put it on my heart to open the door for others to join in this cause. Whether it’s $5 or whatever the Lord places on your heart , every bit makes a difference. No gift is too small when love is the motive. And if someone comes to mind who’d love to support this mission, feel free to share this with them. Let’s make this an unforgettable day. Let’s remind these families that they are seen, celebrated, and so deeply loved . 🙏🏽 Thank you for your generosity, your prayers, and your heart. Let’s build the Kingdom — one feast at a time. Volunteer Information: Sign Up Link MUSIC TIME 🎵Edem Evangelist – “Never Seen” A bold anthem to brag on the greatness of God—Creator of the universe and everything in it.

The Story Behind “A Feast For His Beloved” This blog? This whole blogging thing ? It was never the plan. When I first started the website for A Feast For His Beloved , it was simply meant to be an awareness tool. An event page. A way to let people know what God was doing behind the scenes through events . Not a space for storytelling, and definitely not a blog hub. But God… He has a funny way of planting seeds in secret and watering them in public! This isn’t just a blog post. It’s the backstory—how God took something I was trying to keep very private and made it public for His glory. A Whisper in the Secret Place 🌱 The seed of this whole thing was sown during my secret time with God. That’s where A Feast For His Beloved was born. But it didn’t become public right away. It took six months (and a lot of internal wrestling) before I even touched the “publish” button. See, the concept of a blog didn’t come from a brainstorm session —it came out of nowhere. At least, it felt like nowhere. Looking back, it was clearly Heaven-sent. A blog though? Absolutely not. Funny thing is, I used to blog years ago during my lukewarm days. Yup—under the alias Zamara (beautiful name, I know—it means “praise” in Hebrew). Back then, I wrote about deep stuff like forgiveness, marriage, and heart matters. It was raw. Honest. But super private—only for close friends and people I trusted. So when the Holy Spirit nudged me to add a blog on the website , I was like: “Umm… Lord. Events and blogs don’t mix. Plus, who has the time to write blogs every month?!” 😩 Not me. I was just trying to live my quiet life in peace. That was me Let’s be honest—I didn’t want my name attached to it. I didn’t want people peeking into my life. I live a quiet and peaceful life on purpose. I had written my first blog on another platform—just to help people understand what it really means to walk with God,  holiness, and the cost of discipleship. The real stuff. Righteousness. Discipline. Surrender. The blog was never  meant to be public. My Heart Said No, But My Fear of God Said Yes Obedience Looks Like Cringing Sometimes I wanted my walk with God to remain private, tucked away, safe from opinions and assumptions. Because let’s be honest—when you start sharing your faith openly, people start talking. “Oh wow, Whitney is a Jesus girl now?” Cue the stories. Cue the side-eyes. A part of me wasn’t ready to share that part of my life so openly. I still wanted to hide. But then came that verse like a whisper in my heart: “If you are ashamed of Me before men, I will be ashamed of you before My Father in Heaven.” Matthew 10:33 That verse checked me real quick. I may be lowkey, but I fear God , so I obeyed. Even if it meant being misunderstood. Even if people would create their own stories. I Obeyed real quick! I took the first blog I had written on the other platform—and posted it on A Feast For his Beloved website. I cringed as I hit publish. Cringed. Because now people would really see. They’d see how serious I was about my walk with God. #Unashamed Hidden But Found: The Blog Nobody Was Supposed to Read I remember thinking, Who’s even going to read this? I’m lowkey. Nobody even knows what I’m up to anymore. I didn’t promote it. I didn’t share it. But somehow… people started finding it. I’d see the page views and go up, “Wait… HOW?!” I just kept writing, quietly. Faithfully. Because I felt led. And then one day, out of nowhere , I get this message out of the blue, from an old friend I hadn’t spoken to in almost seven years : “Whitney, old friend—I hope you’ve been well! You crossed my mind and I Googled you and came across your blog (very stalker-ish, I know 🤣). But I really love your posts and more importantly, I’m so happy to see the beautiful work God’s been doing in you. 🥰🫶🏾” I was stunned. That’s when I realized: this wasn’t just a blog. This was divine orchestration. God was putting me in people’s minds. God was literally putting me in people’s hearts… leading them to the blog. He was drawing the right hearts to the right words at the right time. This Isn’t Random. This Is Divine. So if you’re reading this right now—whether you stumbled here “accidentally” or Googled my name like my old friend—just know: it’s not random. You didn’t find this blog by accident. The Holy Spirit led you here. He has something to say to you , and He’s using me to say it. These are letters from God —I’m just the pen. 42 Blogs Later… Still in Awe Listen. I never planned to write this many blogs.. To God be the glory—I’ve written 42 blogs . Forty-two! That’s wild to me. I’m just someone trying to obey God, one post at a time. I don’t know where this is going. I just know I’ll keep writing as He leads. I pray these blogs don’t just inspire you but transform you. I pray they draw you closer to Jesus—not just as a Savior, but as Lord. I pray you become doers of the Word, not just hearers. Because God is so intentional about you! For Him to use a girl like me—one who never wanted to be seen—to write and share this much, and then for you -to find it? I believe God had me write all these just for you. He’s after your heart today. A Final Word from My Heart to Yours He loves you more than you know. If this blog has blessed you—thank God. Truly. That’s all I ever wanted: for God to get the glory and for someone to be encouraged to follow Him fully. If one day our paths cross, maybe at one of our love feasts or in some unexpected way. I’ll be smiling on the inside, knowing that this was always bigger than me. Until then… So here’s my encouragement to you: Be intentional with God. He’s so intentional about you. And hey—maybe one day you’ll be the one writing blog #43. 😉 With all my heart, Whitney Music time 🎧 🎵Marcus Rogers – “God’s Timing” Such a good reminder that nothing’s random—God’s timing is perfect, even when it doesn’t make sense to us. 🎵Sound of Salem – “Emmanuel” This one just hits. Simple but powerful: He is with us. In every high, every low—He never leaves.

Hey fam, Sooo I’ve been working on something new—and I think it’s finally time to let y’all in on it. If you’ve read any of my blogs before, you already know… I’m a full-blown Bible nerd . Like, deep in the Word, highlighting every other verse, getting way too excited about maps in the back of my Bible type of nerd 😂. I just love Scripture. Now, let me give you a little backstory. Before all this, I used to do event planning—yep, centerpieces, mood boards, the whole aesthetic vibe. But then I had this dream (one of those God-is-talking-so-clearly-you-can’t-ignore-it type dreams), and I knew He was calling me to something else. So I closed the business. Then came A Feast for His Beloved —a totally God-led mission where we throw beautiful events for folks that can’t pay us back. It’s been such a joy. Seriously. But guess what? God’s doing a new thing. Again. And now… He’s leading me back into event planning—but with a twist. This time, it’s all about bringing the Bible to LIFE. Introducing: WALK THE WORD ✨ Basically… it’s a Bible tour experience for people who want to do more than just read the Word—they want to walk it out . Like, literally walk it out. Ever wonder if those places in the Bible are real? Like Thessalonica , Corinth , Athens , or Philippi ? They’re not just names in your Bible—they’re real cities. With real ruins. And real stories. And yes, you can still visit them in Greece. Even the Seven Churches from Revelation? Yep, they’re in modern-day Turkey —Ephesus, Laodicea, all of them. And fam, they are stunning. A view of Ephesus So here’s the big news: We’re planning our first trip, likely next year! It’s gonna be a faith-filled, joy-filled, Bible-comes-alive kinda trip . If that sounds like your vibe, or you’re even a tiny bit curious, here’s what you should know: • You only need to book your flight. • Everything else? We got it booked and planned ! Hotel, ground travel, tours, all the fun stuff. • It’s gonna be seamless, impactful, and deeply rooted in the Word (but also a little boujee, you know me 😂). We’re still working on pricing and all the logistics, but if you’re interested—or even just want to stay in the loop— email us at info@afeastforhisbeloved.com and we’ll keep you posted! Look… we spend so much money investing in stuff. Bags (guilty), shoes (guilty again), cars, houses, all the things. But sometimes… we need to invest in our spirit . In our faith . In something that actually helps us grow spiritually! So yeah, take the trip. Experience the Word. Make it real. And maybe, just maybe… walk it out with me. With love & excitement, Whit 💛 Music Time 🎶 | “Covered” by Drakare We are covered—every single day—by His love, grace, and mercy. What a beautiful reminder through this song. 🙌🏽✨

Today’s post is gonna be a short one… I hope . We’re talking about redemption and restoration—two words that sound lovely until you have to live them out. Let me start with a confession: For the longest time, my personal motto in life was simple— “Keep it pushing.” If a friendship ended, if a relationship collapsed, if I walked away from something—I wasn’t going back. Why? Because I always gave my best. I left it all on the table. So once I made peace with the situation, I became like steel—firm, unmoved, untouchable. My decision was final. And then God pulled up…He checked me. Hard. He showed me that my “keep it pushing” mentality wasn’t maturity or strength —it was pride . Ouch. Imagine my face when I realized my whole life motto was wrapped in pride. He showed me that my motto was built more on my terms than His plan. It was about my peace , my boundaries , my effort , not His plan or His heart for restoration. It wasn’t about surrender or obedience—it was about self-protection. I thought I was guarding my peace… but I was actually blocking His purpose in some situations. Onesimus & Philemon – A Redemption Tale Now, let’s make this real. There’s a little book tucked in the New Testament called Philemon . Tiny, easy to skip—but y’all, the depth in these verses? The first time I read it, I was doing Bible study with someone, and we had very different takes. (Let’s just say it was a spicy conversation. 😂) But recently, God took me back to it with fresh eyes. And I saw something beautiful: A journey of love! This book is actually a love story . A story of grace. A story of redemption. It goes like this (Phil:1): Paul, writes a letter to a man named Philemon , a believer who loves the Lord. Philemon had a bondservant (aka slave) named Onesimus who had run away—something that, in those days, was a huge offense. But here’s the twist: Onesimus ends up in prison with Paul. And through Paul, he encounters Jesus. He becomes a believer. A brother in Christ . Paul even calls him “my son.” Now, Paul’s writing to Philemon asking him to take Onesimus back —but not as a slave. As a brother . He doesn’t just appeal to duty or forgiveness as a command. He goes deeper. Paul is like: “Don’t just forgive him because you’re supposed to… forgive him out of love .” That’s powerful! Don’t just forgive because it’s right. Forgive because of love. Let that marinate. Paul makes it even deeper—he says, “If Onesimus owes you anything, charge it to me . I’ll pay it back.” Doesn’t that sound like Jesus? He stands in the gap. He takes the weight, and absorb the debt. Forgive because OF LOVE Why My “Keep It Pushing” Motto Was Flawed Sometimes, yes—God will lead you to forgive and keep moving. But other times , His will is to restore what was broken . That was the part I didn’t want to hear. I had to face the truth: My stubborn motto didn’t leave room for God to restore, amend, or redeem the relationships He wanted to. I had made myself the author of every goodbye instead of letting Him write the final chapter. Redemption requires humility , not just closure. I had to become okay with going back—not to everything, but to the people and places God Himself is calling me back to . And when I go back, I can’t just bring tolerance—I have to bring love . What If God’s Goal Is Restoration? Love Ain’t Easy… But It’s Powerful Let’s get real: Love is hard. And it’s not always about moving forward into something new. Sometimes love says, “Go back. Let Me finish what I started.” Sometimes it looks like forgiveness and swallowing your pride. Okay. If God is nudging you to restore a relationship or friendship you gave up on, but pride is in the driver’s seat— pull over. Because if you go your own way and ignore God’s tug… trust me, your plan will crumble. That’s not punishment. That’s what happens when we plant in disobedience. You don’t want to reap the fruit of stubbornness when He’s offering sweet restoration. The hard truth: sometimes the very person you need to make peace with is tied to your destiny. Saying “no” to reconciliation might be justifiable, but it could actually be you saying “no” to God’s plan. Sometimes, going back doesn’t mean going backward—it means obedience. You could forfeit something divine just because pride or pain is doing the talking. Reach Out! Every redemption story starts with someone who said “yes” to love again. Charge It to You Let me leave you with this: If you feel like something or someone is too broken to be repaired—look again. Redemption is the Father’s specialty. He takes what we call “over” and writes a new beginning. And just like Paul told Philemon… “Whatever they owe you, charge it to Me.” Paul stood in the gap for Onesimus, Christ stands in the gap for the people who’ve hurt us. He’s not asking us to ignore the pain. He’s asking us to release it— in love. I don’t know who this is for today, but if God’s been whispering, “Go back. Make it right. Restore it.” Don’t fight Him. Ask for grace. Ask for courage. Ask for His heart. Maybe this blog is your wake-up call. Because there’s nothing more beautiful than watching God redeem what looked broken beyond repair. I’m here for every redemption story. Let God write your story! 🎶 Music Time! Today’s pick: “Greatest Love” by CalledOut Music — because His love truly is the greatest! 💖 And a personal fave: “I Will Dance” by Nathaniel Bassey & Jumoke Oshoboke — a stunning love song to our King.

“He who has ears to hear, let him hear!” — Matthew 11:15 Oh boy—today’s message isn’t sugar and spice and everything nice. It’s direct. Sharp. A little spicy. But all in love. Because real love doesn’t always coddle you—it calls you higher . Sometimes love sounds like, “Grow UP Fam” This is one of those messages. If you’re still sipping spiritual milk—struggling with fornication, porn, masturbation, drunken nights out, filthy playlists, and justifying sin—this one’s gonna be tough. And that’s the point. “Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature…” — Hebrews 5:13-14 Step your game up ! This message is for those ready to grow up in God. Ready to level up in their faith. Ready to stop dating God and enter a full-blown covenant marriage with Him. ✨ From Dating to Covenant: It’s Time to Go Deeper Let’s start with an analogy. Think about romantic relationships: when we date someone, we start light—friendship/dating. Then comes the “exclusive” phase. Next? Engagement. And finally— covenant . That beautiful, terrifying, glorious thing called marriage . Commitment. Vows. Depth. Our walk with God is no different. A lot of us are stuck in the “God is good, He blesses me” phase. Many of us are still in the casual dating phase with Him, we don’t want to put a ring on it .. But God is  saying, “I want more. I want your vows. I want your loyalty. I want covenant.” Imagine being with someone for 10 years and they never propose? That would cause major issues, right? No one wants to be in a situationship for 10 years with no commitment. But we do that to God . We want His blessings, His peace, His favor—but we won’t give Him our full surrender. We want to be Loved, but not led. Favored, but not faithful. That’s not love—it’s convenience. That has to change. 💍 What Is a Covenanted Life? A covenant life is a life of vows , consistency , and intentional sacrifice . It’s when you stop living based on feelings and start living based on faithful commitment . Here’s what a covenant lifestyle might look like: • “I tithe 15% every paycheck.” • “I pray, study the word and worship for one hour every single day.” • “I give 10% of my income to the poor.” • “I fast the first three days of each month.” • “I serve the homeless twice a month.” • “I keep myself sexually pure.” • “I retreat with God one day a month.” These aren’t legalistic chains—they’re love-fueled commitments. Just like in marriage, you don’t stop loving your spouse because you don’t feel like it that day. You made a vow , so you show up. That’s the heart of covenant. The Danger of Inconsistency: Consistency Unlocks Inheritance Let’s be honest— inconsistency is killing our walk with God . One month we’re all-in, next month we’re ghosting God. You can’t build a legacy on inconsistency. You can’t birth a new bloodline on broken promises. Inconsistency kills  growth. Inconsistency does not inherit the promise. When you start making vows and living them out, God notices . That’s when He starts handing you blueprints for your life. That’s when instructions and promises start flowing—and the promises? They’re not just for you. They’re generational. It becomes the foundation for generational blessings . Bible Time: Abraham, David & the Power of Covenant Let’s rewind to the original covenant OG— Father Abraham . “I will establish My covenant between Me and you and your descendants after you… to be God to you and to your descendants after you.” — Genesis 17:7 God struck a covenant with Abraham. And Abraham responded with obedience, altars, and sacrifice . That was his lifestyle. In return, God gave him a generational promise— Israel. The twelve tribes. Even Jesus Himself came from that lineage . It was all because one man chose covenant over comfort. Then there’s King David —a man after God’s own heart. He danced, he prayed, he gave, he repented and above all he lived a committed life unto God. God made a covenant with David that his descendants would always sit on the throne . “Your house and your kingdom will endure forever before me; your throne will be established forever.” – 2 Samuel 7:16 Even when Solomon — David’s son fell into full-on idolatry (yikes), God didn’t remove Solomon from his kingship. Why? Because He remembered His covenant with David. God spared the kingdom for David’s sake . He split it instead of wiping it out from Solomon, just to honor that covenant. “Yet for the sake of David your father, I will not do it during your lifetime… I will preserve one tribe for the sake of David My servant.” — 1 Kings 11:12-13 Now that’s the power of covenant. A covenant life doesn’t just bless you . It protects your children even when they fall. That’s the kind of insurance policy no bank can offer. Real Talk for My Folks Thinking About Marriage 💍 Here’s a word of advice straight from the heart—with love and a whole lot of truth: If you or the person you’re considering marrying aren’t living a covenanted life with God… don’t do it. Seriously. Pause. Pray. Reassess. Why? 1. It shows neither of you are truly serious about your walk with God. Marriage is not just about romance and vibes—it’s a spiritual partnership. If God isn’t at the center, then what exactly are you building on? 2. You’ll likely repeat the same broken patterns. Without the Word as your foundation, you’ll copy and paste the very things you said you never wanted. Only biblical principles can break generational curses and birth new, godly cycles. 3. It takes two people fully surrendered to God to make marriage work. Not one, not “almost,” not “trying to be spiritual”— two committed, consecrated hearts. If only one person is carrying the weight, it’s going to crumble. Harsh? Maybe. But it’s the truth. I hate to say it, but if both of you aren’t walking in covenant with God, that marriage will not work. You ’ll likely fall into the same traps your parents or grandparents did—and you’ll pass that pain on if you’re not careful. Marriage without God is a gamble. Marriage with God is a covenant. Offended ? The truth hurts 🧬 Break the Curse, Birth the Blessing I’ll be honest — I was scared to make vows to God. I didn’t want to fall short. But then someone I respect told me the vow they made in their marriage: “God, strike me dead if I ever cheat on my wife.” Drastic? Yes. But necessary for him. He needed that level of covenant to stay grounded. So I took the plunge. I made my vows. And it cost me. It cost me fasting, sacrificing, praying, letting go of things and people I loved. I won’t sugarcoat it— my bloodline wasn’t squeaky clean . But I made a decision: I wasn’t going to pass on pain. I stood in the gap. I repented for my bloodline. I tore down old negative altars and patterns . But I didn’t stop there—I built righteous altars and patterns . Why? Because the righteousness of God (good) must overtake the righteousness of sin (evil) in a bloodline for the pattern to shift. And the shift has begun. I’ve struck a covenant with God that will bless not just me , but my seed . And their seed. And theirs. My Legacy Is Set I declared it and I live it: We are a righteous, holy, pure, God-fearing generation. We carry His presence and glory. We have a covenant of peace, love, joy, and long life. We walk in wisdom, love and power We have kingdom marriages. We have kingdom wealth. We are influential tycoons in the marketplace for the Kingdom of God. We are the beginning of a new pattern. A holy bloodline. That’s my covenant. That’s my legacy ( Just shared a lil bit , I can’t share everything you know 🙃). Now It’s Your Turn Stop negotiating with sin. Stop being casual when God is calling you into covenant. Stand in the gap for your bloodline. Break the patterns of sin that have haunted your family. Build new altars of righteousness. Vow. Commit. Follow through. “The Lord is faithful to all His promises and loving toward all He has made.” – Psalm 145:13 You don’t need to come from a perfect family. You don’t need to have it all figured out. It just takes one man , one woman, to break a generational curse and birth a generational blessing . That person… could be you . Final Charge If Abraham could do it… If David could do it… If Whitney could do it…. So can you. Stop just talking about generational blessings— BECOME ONE. 🕊️ You won’t regret it. Your children’s children will rise up and call you blessed . It’s time to go back to your first love and  put a ring on it. 💍 Let’s go deeper. Let’s go all in. Music Time This one right here is powerful! Just wanted to share this video that speaks deep truth: in marriage, purpose must be greater than emotion. I always tell people—make sure you’re hearing from God before you say “I do.” Butterflies aren’t enough. The person you choose must have a deep, reverent fear of God. That’s the real foundation. If you’re dating, engaged, or even just praying about your future spouse, watch this: 👉 Marriage: Purpose Over Emotion (Watch Here)

A Praise Report Worth Shouting From the Mountaintops Okay, let’s go ahead and silence that little voice that says reading the Bible from Genesis to Revelation is “doing too much.” Or “impossible” Because today , we’re flipping that lie on its head . This isn’t just a post—it’s a praise report ! So buckle up, grab a tea, and let’s talk about what happens when obedience, dreams, and divine timing collide. A Lonely Road… But Worth Every Step First off—can we be real for a second? This faith walk? Sometimes it’s a quiet, lonely road. Not because people are bad, but not everyone is running toward God with the same passion, consistency, and intensity. There’ve been seasons where I’ve had to love folks from afar—not out of judgment but out of obedience. When you’re serious about growing with God, sometimes the pruning looks like separation. Not everyone’s ready to surrender, and the truth is, who you hang around, you start to become . I’ve made choices that some couldn’t understand, sacrifices that raised eyebrows. But guess what? I have zero regrets. My “yes” to God required some “no’s” to comfort, to people, and to distractions. No regrets Now, The Praise Report 🎉 So, out of the blue, someone I hadn’t talked to in almost 11 months reached out. We weren’t super close. The timing? Wild. Because just 2 days earlier, I had a dream about her. Yup. I be dreamin’ like Joseph sometimes! 😄 Now dreams and how God speaks through them? That’s a whole other blog (and yes, it’s coming!). But let me just say: when God speaks, pay attention —even in your sleep. Truth be told, I didn’t want to respond. Not because she was toxic or anything, but because I was in a season of deep consecration . . Those of you who’ve been there—you know. That sacred, pruning phase where God is detoxing your soul, stretching your obedience, and realigning your life. God is refining your mind, emotions, choices—literally everything . That meant Separation. Silence. Stillness. Dying to flesh. He was teaching me what it means to live for Him in truth , not just religious routine.  I ignored a lot of people . People were left on “read” 😅—my apologies if you were one of them no hard feelings, it was either you or my growth .—It wasn’t personal; Hope you understand. Just Joking 🙃 But something tugged on my heart. So I responded. Divine Alignment Over Dinner We got to talking, and somehow God came up (of course He did!). Suddenly I’m like, “Let’s meet for dinner?” And y’all…in that season, I had zero business being out to dinner. So there I was, sitting across from someone I hadn’t spoken to in almost a year, heart thumping because I knew—I had to share my dream with her. Now, was I comfortable? Nope. Was it awkward? Yup. But I obeyed. And that dream? It was confirmation for her. That moment turned into deep conversation. We poured into each other. Encouraged one another. Blessed one another. And from that dinner on, God made it clear—this wasn’t random. He had planted a kingdom sister in my life. And Then Came the Challenge… During one of our chats, I encouraged her to start reading the Bible— from Genesis to Revelation. Not just cherry-pick verses, but consume the whole counsel of God. I told her, “There’s a promise in Scripture: the Word is for everyone—you don’t need to go through a middleman to hear God for yourself ” “They shall all know Me, from the least of them to the greatest,” says the Lord. — Jeremiah 31:34 I told her I was never a reader. Like… ever. But the Holy Spirit gave me grace and hunger to read the entire Bible— multiple times. And with each reading, He unlocked layers of understanding, conviction, and wisdom I didn’t even know existed. She took the advice. And guess what? She’s finishing the WHOLE BIBLE next month. Somebody scream hallelujah! Yes. You read that right. And YES, we are about to throw a party! This Is Bigger Than a Book Club We’re not letting this milestone pass quietly. Oh no, we’re throwing a celebration. This is a kingdom win . This isn’t just about a girl reading a book. This is about a woman of God rising. One who was once deep in the world, now deep in the Word. And she’s not alone. I see it everywhere—A generation of daughters rising —former world lovers now in love with Jesus . Who are trading in their pain for purpose! Women who don’t just post scriptures but live them. Can I just add — these women are the full package & absolutely stunning — inside and out. They’re effortlessly stylish, radiate joy, crack you up with their humor, and above all, they love deeply and truly. Side note: their future husbands? Oh, they’re in for a divine blessing — for real! They’re not just talking about holiness—they are walking it out, even when it’s hard but by his grace. “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.’” — 2 Corinthians 12:9 This walk with Jesus? It’s not religion—it’s relationship. Not just a belief system—it’s a lifestyle. “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” – James 1:22 Final Words Please say a BIG CONGRATS to my sister for this milestone. Let’s give her her flowers 💐💃🏼 because this is major. I hope her journey encourages you—yes YOU—to pick up that Bible. Start where you are. Go at your pace. And know that if God can take someone who wasn’t even a reader and turn her into a full-on Word warrior, He can do the same for you. Don’t wait for perfection. Don’t wait for a new year’s resolution. Start where you are. Just…start. Don’t let fear or your past or even your current level of understanding stop you. Ask God for grace. He will meet you. So… Who said it’s impossible to read the Bible from Genesis to Revelation ? Because clearly… they LIED! Music Time 🎵 Aware by Emandiong. It’ll make you so aware of His love and presence—real, tender, and renewing. 🎵 He is Enough by Kaestrings… worship in Hausa is stunning. Pure and powerful.

What gospel did you hear? Was it one of those soft and sparkly messages that went something like: “Jesus loves you! He died for you! He wants to bless you!” Now, don’t get me wrong—that’s 100% true, every word of it, but that’s not the whole gospel. It’s like telling someone marriage is just romance and candlelight dinners—then leaving out sacrifice, commitment, and late-night diaper duty. What’s often left out of today’s version of the gospel is the call to repentance , the cost of following Jesus , and the reality of transformation . Jesus calls us to repent . To turn away from our old life. To deny ourselves. To follow Him, not just with words , but with our lives . And that part? It’s not always popular But it’s what makes the difference between a fan of Jesus and a follower of Jesus. Today, we’ve marketed Jesus like He’s a feel-good subscription service: just confess, click ‘I believe,’ and boom—your life upgrades instantly! and the results? People are walking around with disappointed faith, jaded hearts, and confusion about who God really is. Let’s talk about it…… Confession Without Repentance Is a Counterfeit Gospel Let’s call it out: Modern Christianity has gotten too comfortable with double-living. We’ve glamorized a double life and somehow made it normal to live it. One life at church, and a whole different story when no one’s watching. We shout “Man of God! Woman of God!”—but behind closed doors, it’s masturbation, fornication, lying, cheating, spiritual apathy . —and we’re calling it grace. The Double Life Delusion Let’s be real. We’re living in a delusional Christianity  where we expect the blessing  but reject the obedience  and the standards of God (holiness). And what’s worse? Today, we don’t seek God for ourselves. We’re depending completely on pastors and YouTube sermons to spoon-feed us the Word. We don’t open our Bibles. Don’t get it twisted—yes, teachers and leaders are important. But you need to know the Word for yourself. Because when false teachers start serving Kool-Aid instead of Living Water, it’s your discernment and the word of God you know (not your emotions) that’ll save you. Repentance: The Missing Piece Here’s the uncomfortable truth: A lot of us said “yes” to Jesus but never actually said “no” to our sin. We want salvation without sanctification . We want forgiveness without change . Repentance is literally the doorway to real intimacy with God. What happened to repentance? What happened to turning away from sin and walking in holiness? Somewhere along the way, we reduced Christianity to just a confession: “Jesus is savior.” But confession without transformation is just empty words. Like James said faith without works is dead ( James 2:17 ) aka faith without commitment and action is dead. You can’t have both Jesus and your sin . They’re not roommates. Jesus and sin can’t coexist in the same heart. That’s the whole point of the cross—He died to set us free from the very sin we keep cuddling with behind closed doors. You Can’t Sow Seeds While Living in Sin: Let’s talk about the seed-sowing thing. Some of us think we can sow money into a church and boom—miracle unlocked. Breakthrough activated. We’ve got believers sowing financial seeds, expecting a harvest, but still drowning in unrepentant sin. Let me be clear: God looks at the vessel before the offering. If the heart is impure , the seed is corrupt. David said, “A broken and contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.” (Psalm 51:17) It’s not about the amount in your envelope, but the posture of your heart. Don’t try to bribe God with a “seed” when you haven’t fully surrendered your soul. You Can’t Bribe God With A Seed I’m not saying don’t sow. I’m saying don’t skip repentance and sow seeds for blessing. The vessel is more important than the seed! God Is King, Not a Magic Lamp God Is Not Amazon Prime We’ve created this imaginary God who functions like Amazon Prime —two-day shipping, free returns, instant upgrades. We “sow a seed,” name it, claim it, and expect next-day delivery. “God, I prayed. Where’s my blessing?” “God, I fasted. Where’s my husband?” “God, I tithed. Where’s my promotion?” And when it doesn’t come? We ghost God. Stop praying. Stop going to church. Start questioning if He’s real. We’re out. Done. Bitter. Some even walk away from the faith.  When life gets hard and the blessings don’t come, we panic, fall off, and say, “God isn’t working for me.” But hear me: God is not a genie. He’s a King. God is not supposed to be working for us . We’re supposed to be living for Him . Our job isn’t to get Him to fulfill our plans —it’s to surrender to His . “Your kingdom come, Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” — Matthew 6:10 That was the template prayer Jesus gave us. It starts with His will , not our wish list. Even Jesus—God in the flesh—said, “I only do what the Father tells me to do.” He wasn’t out here living His best life; He was living the Father’s will, even when it cost Him everything. So if Jesus is our model, why do we think life with God is all about comfort, convenience, and dreams coming true? Why We Lose Faith Many are walking away from the faith—not because God failed, but because our expectations were never biblical and not aligned to his will . We heard a gospel that said: • God will fix everything. • You’ll never suffer. • You’ll get the spouse, the car, the promotion, the dream life. But the Bible says: “In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart, I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33) Let that sink in It’s Time to Rebuild the Foundation Truth is, many of us started this faith walk with a faulty foundation . We heard some truth—but missed the full picture. We were handed a feel-good gospel that skipped over repentance, obedience, and discipleship. An imbalanced gospel is just as dangerous as a false one. It creates fragile Christians who expect easy lives and quit when trials come. So when life gets tough… when prayers go unanswered… when suffering hits… we think something’s broken. We think God is a scam. We want the kingdom perks without the kingdom principles . But that’s not how any kingdom works. The truth- the gospel we heard didn’t prepare us for the fire that refines , for the cost of obedience , for the fact that God is more interested in making us holy than making us happy . We must seek First the Kingdom! “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” (Matthew 6:33) That spouse? That promotion? That business? It comes as you pursue the King and His kingdom. God cares far more about your character than a blessing . Why? Because blessings without character will crush you. When God blesses you, it’s not just for you—it’s for His glory : • That marriage? It should raise godly seeds. • That business? It should operate with godly principles. • That platform? It should preach truth. Final Thoughts: Don’t Outsource Your Faith Let’s stop treating God like Amazon Prime and start honoring Him as King . Here’s the most important thing I can say: Read the Bible for yourself. Don’t just only depend on pastors and preachers. Study. Wrestle. Ask questions. Seek truth. Let the Holy Spirit teach you. Yeah, it’s not easy at first. But tell me—was algebra easy the first time you saw it? No. You had to sit with it. Work it. Learn it. Same with Scripture. God isn’t looking for perfect people—He’s looking for surrendered people who are willing to grow and align to his will . So let’s ask God: “Lord, what is Your will for my life? Teach me Your ways. I want to live for You—fully, honestly, completely.” Let’s stop treating God like a delivery system for our desires—and start living to fulfill His will on earth as it is in heaven. And just so you know—I’m preaching to myself too. None of us are exempt. But by His grace, we can get it right. Music time? Instead, I wanted to share something even more powerful—a short but deeply moving evangelism video that really hit me: Watch here . It’s a beautiful reminder that evangelism is for everyone—no matter what your past looks like. Let’s stop judging by appearances and start seeing people the way Jesus does. 💛

This topic right here? Whew. It’s a love-hate thing for me. Some days, I’m out here responding like Jesus Himself is coaching me in real-time. Other days… I catch myself mid-response like, “Sis, who is this? “ 😂But through the highs and lows, one thing’s clear—God has been stretching me in this area, giving me grace even when I don’t get it all right. How I want to respond sometimes 😅Getting saved doesn’t flip some switch that shuts off our emotions. We still feel deeply—but now we’re called to respond differently, with grace and wisdom. Let’s talk about it Life Be Life-ing… But So Does Growth Sometimes life just isn’t fair. People disappoint us, say things they shouldn’t, do things that cut deep and act completely out of line. Situations  blindside us and things don’t go the way we prayed or hoped. And our emotions? Yeah… they want to take the wheel. But we can’t always react off emotions. That clap-back? That silent treatment? That stormy attitude? And if we’re not careful, we’ll end up reacting out of raw emotion instead of responding in wisdom. That’s where God comes in. He teaches us how to pause —how to choose His way instead of our way. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary. Because the truth is: our response matters. You don’t have to clap back just because someone came at you sideways. You don’t have to match that energy. You don’t have to be petty to prove a point. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is take a deep breath, pause, and say, “God, how do You want me to respond?” Sometimes, the wisest thing to do is just… pause. Because how you respond —not how you feel —is what reveals what’s really inside of you. Offense Will Always Be an Option—But So Is Obedience Being offended is easy. Staying offended? Even easier. But offense is a trap —a sneaky one. It gets you all worked up, stuck in your feelings, replaying moments in your head, planning imaginary arguments. There’ve been times I’ve been deeply offended. Hurt in ways that made me question people’s hearts. I wanted to defend myself, say how I really felt, and even the score. But God gently reminded me… “The anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” – James 1:20 ( there is a difference between righteous anger and fleshly anger) It hit me. Offense may feel justified, but it never leads to healing. It only multiplies the pain. The world may call it foolish to let things go, to forgive, to keep showing up with love. But Scripture tells us: “The wisdom of God is foolishness to man.” – 1 Corinthians 1:25 (paraphrased) So yeah, to the world it looks weak. But in the Kingdom? It’s strength. I Made a Decision—And It Changed Everything I’ve decided: no matter what anyone does to me, their actions will never determine my love or my faithfulness. Period. I will always choose love. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s powerful. This world is already filled with enough hate, enough judgment, enough hardness. What we need? Is love. Real, genuine, Spirit-filled love. Sometimes the people who offend us are just deeply wounded themselves. Now, hear me clearly: this isn’t an excuse for bad behavior —accountability still matters. But sometimes when we look a little deeper, we’ll see pain beneath the surface. And sometimes? Our love is the very thing God wants to use to break those walls down. I know you’ve been mistreated. Overlooked. Cheated. Lied on. Choose love anyway. I pray our love becomes so pure, so deep, so God-breathed… that it becomes our default reaction. What If… God Has a Bigger Picture? You ever think the very person who offended you might be the one God is calling you to impact in a powerful way? Sometimes we miss divine assignments because we stay stuck in offense. Some of the best stories start with pain but end in restoration. God’s in the business of flipping the script. Let’s get practical, with a Bible story. Remember Paul? Yeah… That Paul Let me take you to one of the wildest plot twists in the Bible. Before Paul was the apostle we love to quote, he was Saul—a man on a mission to kill Christians. Literally. He was zealous for the law, a religious fanatic convinced he was doing good by hunting down believers. In his mind, he thought he was honoring God by silencing the followers of Jesus. But one day, on his way to Damascus to murder more believers , he encountered the Light of God . And it blinded him—physically. Everything changed in that moment. Now here’s where it gets crazy: the man God sent to pray for Paul and help him receive his sight back was Ananias . A man from the same community Paul was about to attack. Can you imagine the fear and confusion? Ananias was like, “Wait Lord… you want me to pray for the same man who’s been hurting us? Like… him him ?” Imagine that— praying for the man who came to kill your people . Ananias was like, “Umm God, are You sure?” (Whitney’s version 😅) But Ananias obeyed. He responded well. He didn’t let offense cloud his obedience. And that obedience? That response? Birthed one of the greatest apostles of all time. Paul went on to write over 70% of the New Testament . Even Peter said: “ Our dear brother Paul… wrote with the wisdom that God gave him…” – 2 Peter 3:15-16 Like—Paul was moving on a different level. But it all started with someone saying yes to God over offense. None of that happens if Ananias lets offense block obedience. Real Love Ain’t Always Sweet Let’s get this straight: real love isn’t always soft . Sometimes love has to be bold. Sometimes it corrects. Sometimes it sets boundaries. But at its core—it always seeks the good of the other person. Let’s get practical — If someone you love is in a burning house, you’re not gonna whisper, “Hey, sweetie, could you maybe come out?”. Nah! You’re screaming “GET OUT!” You’re gonna break doors, do whatever it takes to get them out. Because that’s real love. Love can look like truth. Love can look like tough conversations. Love can even look like letting go. But it should never look like hate. L ove is always faithful. Don’t Let Offense Block Your Blessing I’ll end with this: don’t let how someone treats you stop you from being who God called you to be. Don’t  let someone else’s bad behavior determine how you love . You were created to love like Jesus. And Jesus never let pain stop Him from purpose. So friend… how you respond really matters. Sometimes the very person who offended you is the one God wants you to bless. Sometimes the pain is part of a redemptive story God is writing. Sometimes your obedience in loving someone hard-to-love is what shifts everything. So stay faithful. Stay loving. Stay rooted. Choose love every time—even when it hurts, even when it’s hard, even when it doesn’t make sense. Because… “If I have not love, I am nothing.” – 1 Corinthians 13:2 Born to love like my Savior does. The Girl with the Biggest Heart 🎶 Music Time, Fam! 🎶 Need a track that’ll make you want to worship AND crush it at the gym ? 👊🏽🔥 Marcus Rogers’ “Throw in the Towel” is IT. You’ll be praising with passion and pushing those weights like you’re fighting demons off your destiny! 😅🙌🏽 Then switch gears and lift your heart with Tjsarx – Hallowed —a powerful anthem to glorify the One who hears and answers prayers. It’s worship and your feet will be moving as well.

Today is for the men. Yes sir, this one’s for you — the fellas, the brothers, the mighty men in the making. We did one for the ladies, but now it’s your turn to get this loving but necessary heart check. There’s a dangerous trend happening that’s not pleasing to the heart of God — A wave of men who look godly from the outside but are far from surrendered on the inside. This message has been burning in my heart, and I come not with condemnation but with love, truth, and a serious call to repentance . Because the truth is… God is calling His sons higher . And it’s time we call this trend out — lovingly , but boldly . In this blog, we’re going to break down the two types of men walking around in today’s world: • The Culture Man • The Kingdom Man So buckle up. This ride might be bumpy, but it’s all love. Let’s go. Are you a Culture Man  or a Kingdom Man ? 💣 Culture Man: The God-Talker, Not the God-Walker Let’s paint the picture: the Culture Man looks like a godly man — on the surface . Let’s be honest, he’s probably respected, charismatic, charming, and considered “godly” by many. He… • Posts Scriptures on social media (and he’s even got “God first” in his bio). • Thanks God for his blessings (when he gets a new job, new house, you get the gist ) • Respects his parents and wants a godly wife and kids • Talks about settling down and raising a family in faith Sounds like a Kingdom man, right? Not so fast. Because behind closed doors , this man is living a double life . Let’s peel back the curtain… • Secret sins : He’s still masturbating , watching porn, slipping into fornication , and getting drunk. • Compromised entertainment : He bumps music that glorifies lust and pride • Worldly friendships : His circle? Mostly men of the world. Most of his inner circle doesn’t live by God’s Word and standard. • Double-minded decisions : He’s guided by logic , emotion and the advice of men , not the Holy Spirit . He makes big life choices claiming “God led me,” but never fasted, hardly prayed consistently , engages more in worldly activities ,and never truly sought godly counsel. He has a form of godliness to the outside. “Having a form of godliness ..…” — 2 Timothy 3:5 Talk is Cheap: He talks the talk, but doesn’t walk the walk. He knows about God, but he doesn’t know God. He loves the gifts of God more than the God of the gifts . This man wants to do right. He wants the blessings. But he hasn’t truly submitted to the Lord. He praises God when the blessings come, but disappears when pruning begins. He thinks he can muscle through sin with willpower. But bro — thinking you can do it without God’s help is a form of pride . You don’t need more strength , you need more surrender . Culture Christianity: polished on the surface, polluted underneath. 😤 “He Fears God” — But He Cuddles Sin? This man is living a double life . Double-minded, unstable, half in the world and half in the word of God. He claims to fear God but he doesn’t truly because if he truly feared God, he wouldn’t keep cuddling sin . You can’t play worship music on Sunday and ratchet anthems on Monday. “The fear of the Lord is to hate evil.” — Proverbs 8:13. You say you fear God… but you’re still comfortable doing what breaks His heart? You’re not truly repenting, you’re just saying sorry because you go back to sin again! (someone needed to hear that). There is a difference between repetance and an apology! 🪞Mirror Moment: Are You Really Following God? It’s time to stop using God as a stamp of approval for decisions you made in the flesh. You say God told you to marry her? Build that business? Move to that city? But God didn’t convict you of your secret sin first? You say God led you to your wife… but hasn’t led you out of lust? You say He blessed your business… but you still consult the flesh more than the Word? Hmm… That’s not alignment, that’s delusion. Brother, that’s not divine direction — that’s deception. God doesn’t bless mess. Let me be clear — you might still be receiving blessings , but don’t be fooled… The devil can bless too. He can open doors that look good but lead to destruction. Not all blessings are from God! (That’s why discernment is crucial). “The blessing of the Lord makes one rich, and He adds no sorrow with it.” — Proverbs 10:22 This is why your decisions are shaky. Why your emotions run the show. Why you’re building “blessings” on compromised foundations — because God isn’t truly leading them. Let me ask plainly: Why would God give you a spouse, a platform, a business — if you haven’t let Him lead your private life? 👑 Kingdom Man: All In. No Compromise. Now let’s talk about the Kingdom Man . He’s not perfect, but he’s surrendered . Every part of his life — thoughts, marriage, money, music, friends, fashion, emotions, business — is submitted to the Lordship of Jesus . He doesn’t flirt with sin. He used to struggle with porn, masturbation, fornication, lying, all of it — but he didn’t stay there. He ran to the cross and let the fire of God burn it away and God delivered him . His taste for sin is gone. He’s not faking freedom — he’s living it. This man is led by the Spirit , not by trends. He’s got accountability , a godly community , and abides by biblical standards . He doesn’t just say “God first” — you can see it in his lifestyle. He’s surrounded by kingdom brothers , not culture men. “Bad company corrupts good character.” — 1 Corinthians 15:33 Their circle is full of Kingdom brothers. They’re not perfect, but they’re accountable and anchored in God’s Word. He doesn't keep close company with boys who compromise. “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.” — Luke 9:23. That’s the soundtrack to his life! He seeks God’s will before he makes moves. He fast. He prays. He studies the word of God. He discerns. He obeys. He leans on grace — not on self-discipline alone. He is honest , humble , and hungry for more of God. From Culture to Kingdom: A Real Life Example Let’s go to Zacchaeus , the tax collector (Luke 19). He was corrupt, greedy, dishonest — a certified Culture Man . But when Jesus showed up? He said: “Look, Lord! I give half my possessions to the poor. And if I’ve cheated anybody, I will repay them four times the amount.” — Luke 19:8 Jesus didn’t even tell him to repent. The presence of Jesus alone exposed his sin and brought transformation. This is what happens when you truly encounter God for real — you change. A heart change. A lifestyle change. A new creation indeed! 🛑 Culture Can’t Save You — Only Jesus Can Let me speak plainly now — in love. You can’t keep claiming God while cuddling sin. You’re not just compromising yourself — you’re confusing others. If you’re not ready to surrender, please stop posting about a God you don’t obey . You’re misrepresenting the Kingdom. You might lead someone else into confusion with your double life. Stop posting about God when your life doesn’t reflect Him. This isn’t shade. It’s love. Stop calling it “God’s will” when it’s your flesh’s desire . Jesus said: “These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.” — Matthew 15:8 If you’re not ready to die to self, you’re not ready to represent the Kingdom . You can’t keep claiming Christ and cuddling compromise. 📣 A Loving Word to the Culture Man This message is not to shame you. It’s to awaken you. “The Lord is not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.” — 2 Peter 3:9 But make no mistake — some are perishing because of free will. God loves you too much to let you keep living this double life. He’s calling you into full surrender , not halfway holiness. You can’t do this halfway. Halfway surrender is still disobedience . ✝️ Final Call: Kingdom Over Culture My brother, it’s time to pick a side. You’ve been sitting on the fence too long. God isn’t asking for perfection — He’s asking for your FULL yes . Your whole yes. He’s calling you to be a Kingdom man in a culture that’s begging you to conform. Choose today whom you will serve? Lay down your life. Pick up your cross. Let the Holy Spirit truly lead you. Because Kingdom men don’t just talk about God. They walk with Him. It’s not about works. It’s about a new heart. If you’re reading this and feeling convicted — good . That’s the Holy Spirit. Don’t ignore Him. Repent. Get in the Word. Surround yourself with Kingdom men. Ask God to crucify your flesh and build you into the man He designed you to be. Choose today who you will be? Not by your posts. Not by your talk. By your surrender and actions. Let’s go, Kingdom man. We need you. 💪🏾🔥 It’s forever Kingdom over culture. Every time!