Destiny Connections: Let God Do the Picking!

Back with the pen again! I told y’all—the Holy Spirit ain’t playing games with this writing! Today, we’re going there. This one is personal. Friendships.

Let me just say—I’ve always been grateful for my friends. And if we’re keeping it real, I would classify myself as a great friend. No exaggeration. I go above and beyond for the people I care about—not because I want something in return, but because that’s just how God wired me. Some people aren’t used to good people, but we exist (lol). But truth be told, all my life, I thought I had hit the jackpot with friendships—until I started truly walking with God.

Whew, let me tell you—everything changes when you decide to follow Jesus for real. It’s not just your habits, your lifestyle choices, or your desires. Your friendships will be impacted, too. We hear all the time about God having a destiny spouse for us, but do we ever stop to think that He also has destiny connections/ friendships? Friendships that align with His purpose for our lives?

Friendships and Purpose—It’s Deeper Than You Think.

When I surrendered fully to God, my friendships shifted—drastically. My discernment got sharper, and I started seeing people for who they really were. I was in a season of brokenness, trying to pick up the pieces and follow God at the same time. And during that season? I found out some friends were gossiping about my situation—some of them still don’t know that I know. Yet, they would come and “check on me” like they actually cared.

Now, if you know me, you know—I don’t know how to pretend. I had to forgive and move on because I was too focused on God to let drama distract me. I decided not to address the situation—not because I was scared or because I didn’t have the words (trust me, I had plenty to say). But I realized something: Addressing it wouldn’t fix it.

See, this season was different for me. God was pulling me into a place of sensitivity, teaching me to pick my battles. Not everything needed my reaction—some things just needed my silence.

Because let’s be real… when God is doing a deep work in you, the last thing you need is unnecessary distractions. I had to ask myself: Would this conversation bring clarity, or would it just drain me? Would addressing the situation actually help, or was it just my flesh wanting to defend itself?

The truth is, when God is refining you, there’s a lot going on in the spirit that you can’t afford to be careless about. I had to protect my peace and stay focused. Sometimes, the real test isn’t in what you say—it’s in what you choose to leave unsaid.

This season revealed something important:

Some friends couldn’t stay with me.

Because adversity will always show you who truly loves you.

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” (Proverbs 17:17)

My circle shrank overnight. Some friends? They were never really my friends. Others? Bless their hearts, but we just weren’t aligned anymore. See, I was going through deep sanctification, dying to self, and pressing into God. But some of them were still living for the world. And when two people are walking in opposite directions, they can’t stay on the same path.

“Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3)

I was living that verse. And when Jesus said, “If your right eye causes you to sin, cut it off” (Matthew 5:29), I took it literally. Anything that didn’t draw me closer to God had to go. No hesitation.

I WASN’T PLAYING GAMES

The Old You vs. The New You

The truth? My friends didn’t recognize me anymore.

They wanted the old me back. But that version of me had died.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

This is not me saying, “I’m better than them.” No, because I was once that friend—the one who was still caught up in the world while others were trying to walk with God. Years ago, I watched a friend leave our circle because they were getting serious about their faith. Back then, I didn’t understand it, but now? Now I get it completely.

“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” (1 Corinthians 15:33)

I would have corrupted that friend back then—not on purpose, not because I was evil or had bad intentions, but simply because I wasn’t ready to fully surrender to God. And if I’m honest? I would have probably pulled them back into things God was trying to pull them out of. Not because I meant to, but because my mindset wasn’t there yet.

Sometimes, the wrong people in your life aren’t bad people—they’re just not fully surrendered to God. And an unsurrendered friend can be more dangerous than an outright enemy.

Some friendships have expiration dates, and some are divinely assigned for a lifetime. But we must have the wisdom to know the difference.

The Wilderness Season Will Separate You : When Silence Exposes Everything

During this season, I was quiet—I mean, silent. This was new for me because I’m naturally a connector. I love bringing people together. But I learned something:

People equate silence with depression.

And when you’re silent, people start making up their own stories about you—which is really just gossip in disguise. No shade, just facts. But honestly? I didn’t care. I was so locked in with God that nothing else mattered. I was going through the fire, being refined and purified, and that’s something every true believer must go through.

You cannot walk with God and keep holding hands with the world. At some point, you’ll have to make a pivotal decision.

The Gift of Destiny Friendships

I had some friends tell me, “I understand what you’re going through.” But the truth? Only two actually kinda understood—because they had been through their own season of consecration to a certain degree.

You can’t fully understand something unless you’ve walked through it.

During my wilderness season, God had to separate me—not because my old friends were bad, but because He was teaching me His ways. Some environments and relationships? I just wasn’t mature enough to handle yet. So, He kept me hidden and focused.

But then, something beautiful happened.

As I surrendered everything, God started sending divine connections.

People who loved God. People who were on fire for Him. People who understood exactly what I was going through because they were walking it too. And let me tell you—those friendships? Are worth more than gold. I’d rather have one divine friendship than a thousand surface-level ones.

We fellowship together.

We serve together.

We grow together.

These are destiny friendships, and when God sends them, you protect them at all costs.

Pray for Your Destiny Friendships

We always pray for our destiny spouse, but do we pray for our destiny friends? Because let me tell you—not everyone is supposed to walk with you.

“Just because someone is good for you in one season doesn’t mean they will be good for you in another season.”

Some of us are holding onto friendships that God never approved of. And we wonder why there’s so much turmoil in our lives.

Some of us have turned our friendships into idols. That was me—I placed too much attachment on my friendships, and God had to strip me of that.

“If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.”(Luke 9:23)

Sometimes, losing people is part of your promotion in the Spirit.

A Word to My Friends

If we were ever friends—whether we still are or not—I want you to know I have nothing but love for you. Even if we never cross paths again, my prayer is that you know God intimately, that you align with your divine purpose, and that you are surrounded by people who genuinely love you and want the best for you.

I’m grateful for every season, every lesson, and every person that has crossed my path. But I’m also grateful for where God is taking me next.

Let God handpick your people. Life will be so much more peaceful and aligned when you do.

Because when you start truly walking with God? Not everyone can come.

MUSIC TIME

Alright, y’all—I’m starting something new at the end of my blogs. A song recommendation!

If you know me, you know I love music. But let me be clear—I only listen to Christian hip-hop or upbeat music for recreation, not as worship music. There’s a difference. Worship is sacred. Sometimes, you just need a good beat without all the filth the world pumps out.

Instead of saturating our ears with secular music (which, let’s be honest, is mostly trash these days—full of filth, perversion, and some other things I won’t dive into today).

So today’s pick: Marcus Rogers – “Walking Kinda Different” & “Oil Music”

First of all, these songs go hard! But more than that, Marcus Rogers’ testimony is powerful. The way God transformed his life is beautiful—he’s truly a holy man with a heart for God.

Go check it out!

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