God Has Intimates, Not Favorites

For the longest time, I thought God had favorites. You know, those people who always seemed to have their prayers answered, walked in supernatural encounters, had open visions, and prophesied like they were chatting with heaven on speed dial. They spoke with boldness, carried divine wisdom, and moved in the power of the Holy Spirit. Meanwhile, I was over here struggling, feeling like my spiritual walk was inconsistent—sometimes God answered, sometimes He didn’t. Sometimes I felt Him, sometimes I didn’t. My connection with God felt more like weak phone signal—choppy, unclear, and full of static.

I figured, “God must have favorites.”

But the truth? It wasn’t favoritism—it was intimacy.

I Was a User, Not a Seeker

Looking back, I realized my relationship with God was transactional. I sought Him only when I needed something, not because I truly wanted to know Him. I was like that friend who only calls when they need a favor. Imagine having someone like that in your life! No real connection, no genuine relationship—just take, take, take. I wanted blessings, breakthroughs, and answers, but I wasn’t pursuing Him to know His heart.

On top of that, I was in sin. Let me say this loud and clear: sin dulls your ability to hear God, especially sexual sin. The Bible is clear in 1 Corinthians 6:18:

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.”

Your spirit is the channel through which the Holy Spirit speaks. But if we’re constantly feeding our flesh with sin instead of nurturing our spirit with the Word of God, how can we expect to hear Him? It’s like expecting Wi-Fi to work in a dead zone.

Galatians 6:7-9 warns us:

“Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.”

The people I admired weren’t just “lucky” or “God’s favorites.” They were holy and consecrated. They spent intentional time with God daily, not because they wanted something, but because they desired Him. They honored His presence, feared the Lord, and lived in obedience. They weren’t perfect, but they were passionate pursuers of Jesus.

Jesus Wants a Date, Not Just a Group Hangout!” – Intimacy vs. Corporate Gathering

To be honest, I used to let corporate gatherings take over my personal time with God. I’d show up at church, pray with everyone, and walk away feeling like I had met my “God quota” for the week. But let’s be real—that’s not intimacy, that’s just participation.

Attending a prayer meeting—whether daily or weekly—doesn’t count as personal time with God. That’s corporate prayer, not private communion. Imagine going on a date, and your date shows up with ten other people—yeah, awkward!

In the same way, we can’t allow group prayers to replace personal time with God. Your one-on-one time with Him must come first because that’s where real transformation happens. You won’t truly know God just by being in the crowd.

For me, everything changed when I started pursuing God intimately—beyond what my pastor said, beyond Sunday church routines, corporate prayers, and gathering. It wasn’t about anyone else; it was just me and God. And when I did that, I stepped into a new level of anointing and understanding. Like one of my favorite teacher says, “We’re supposed to explore God.” And that’s exactly what I was doing—exploring Him, discovering new depths of His nature, and experiencing Him in ways I never had before.

Now, don’t get me wrong—corporate gatherings aren’t bad! Fellowship with other believers is a gift. But the problem comes when that’s the only time we spend with God. If we want to truly know Him, we have to seek Him for ourselves, outside of the crowd, in the secret place where He reveals Himself personally.

God has set a divine order for our priorities, and if we want to walk right with Him, we need to align ourselves with it! Personal time with Him must come first—no matter how much or how little time you have.

Think of it like this: intimacy with God is the foundation of your entire walk—if that part is weak, everything else will crumble. Church, ministry, fellowship—all of it flows from your personal relationship with Him. Get that in order, and everything else will fall into place!

Promises With Conditions

Another game-changer for me was realizing that most of God’s promises come with conditions. We love to quote verses about blessings, but we don’t always pay attention to the context or conditions attached.

• Isaiah 54:17 – “No weapon formed against you shall prosper…” Sounds great, right? But the full verse says, “This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord.” The promise is for His servants—those actively following Him.

• Deuteronomy 28:1-10 – The blessings in this passage are only for those who fully obeythe Lord and carefully follow His commands.

• Psalm 112:1-2 – “Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in His commandments.” The blessing is tied to the fear of the Lord and obedience to His Word.

• Matthew 6:33 – “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” We love the part about “all these things” being added, but do we prioritize seeking His kingdom and righteousness first?

Many of us want the blessings but don’t want the obedience. We claim promises but don’t follow the conditions attached. God isn’t playing favorites—He’s rewarding faithfulness.

Are You Ignoring the Instructions?

If you feel distant from God, ask yourself:

1. Am I truly seeking Him, or just what He can do for me?

2. Am I living in obedience, or am I picking and choosing what I want to follow?

3. Am I making room for intimacy, or just fitting God into my schedule when it’s convenient?

At one point, I was searching for scriptures that didn’t require obedience—just blessings with no conditions. Let me tell you, that was a hard search! Most of God’s promises require faithfulness, holiness, and pursuit. Comfortable Christianity won’t get you there.

Final Call: Pursue Intimacy, Not Just Blessings

God is not partial, but He is just. He rewards those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6). The difference between those who experience more of God and those who don’t is not favoritism—it’s intimacy.

So the real question is: Are you missing out on the move of God because of ignorance or negligence to His commandments? Are you expecting divine rewards without divine relationship? It’s time to pick up your Bible, make it your best friend, and start walking in true obedience. Your intimacy with God will determine your experience of Him.

God has no favorites—just intimates. Will you be one of them?