Who Are You? Woman of God, Woman of the Culture, or Woman of Her Emotions?
- Whitney Anujuo
- May 1
- 5 min read
Today’s topic is a little spicy and very countercultural, and though it’s aimed at my fellow women, men, don’t scroll past — this will bless you too!
We are living in a time when God is raising up Esthers and Deborahs — women who bow their knees to Him, not the shifting sands of the world’s agendas. The dividing line is being drawn. We must choose a side. Will you align with God’s Kingdom, or with the culture? Let’s talk about it.
A Little Transparency: My Journey with Submission & Authority
Let me keep it all the way real.
I didn’t grow up with the best father figure—but I did have one, and for that I’m grateful. Still, I carried confusion and wounds that shaped my view of men and marriage . No one really taught me much about men.
Most of what I learned about men came through — you guessed it — baptism by fire!
Sure, I got along with men better than most women, but being a good friend to a man does not prepare you to be a good wife.
At one point, someone ( God bless their heart) tried to blame my shortcomings on not having a strong father figure, claiming, “How you treat your dad is how you’ll treat your husband.”
Ouch!. That hit hard—but something didn’t sit right with me about that statement.
While there may be some truth in that statement (yes, good upbringing bears good fruit), — but here’s the truth:
If a woman doesn’t submit to the Word of God, she will never submit to authority properly — not her father, not her husband, not anyone.It’s not about upbringing alone. Submission doesn’t start with men—it starts with God. You can have the most loving, wise, amazing dad and still struggle to submit to your husband. Why? Because submission is spiritual, not just relational.
The Turning Point: Godly Mentorship & Spiritual Growth
When I truly surrendered my life to Jesus, He started teaching me what submission and authority really mean. God, in His faithfulness, even connected me to a discipler and mentor— a man of integrity, wisdom, and holiness — who taught me about biblical submission through the word of God.
And let me tell you: God will always make up for the things you never had, as long as you stay submitted and committed to Him.
Godly Women Respect Divine Authority
You, my dear sister, are a woman of God first — before your career, tribe, ethnicity, or title.
Yes, aunty, even before being a “feminist” ( which is another conversation for another day)
The Word of God defines your identity, not culture.
Culture says, “Get a prenup!”
But the Bible says, “What God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
A prenup sets marriage up for failure before it even begins.
Marriage is a covenant — not a casual contract. It’s God’s design, not man’s idea.
So why would we trust culture’s manual over God’s?
Play Your Role, Sis. God Designed It for Your Good
“The Bible says:
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of the church.” (Ephesians 5:22-23)
Ladies, hear me with love:
The man is the head — not you.
There’s a divine order to the family. And it doesn’t mean you’re lesser.
Play your role, Queen! God’s design is not to oppress you— it’s to bless and cover you.
Now, I know some will say, “But what if my husband isn’t submitted to God?”
Let’s pause right there.
(Side note: as a daughter of God, why did you marry someone who doesn’t submit to Him? But hey—God is merciful, and we’re not here to judge.)
Here’s your assignment:
Get on your knees. Pray him into God’s will.
Don’t fight your husband with words and disrespect. Fight on your knees.
Be the woman who reports her husband to God first, not to social media or her friends.
Trust me, heaven listens when a woman prays with a pure heart.
The Power of a Prayerful Woman
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:22)
“A virtuous woman is worth far more than rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10)
A prayerless woman is a powerless woman.
When you pray, God will give you wisdom — when to speak, how to speak, and sometimes, when to stay silent. Control your emotions, don’t let them control you. You can’t do it in your own strength — ask God for GRACE. Be the kind of woman whose presence unlocks favor over her husband’s life—heaven takes notice when a virtuous woman stands in position!
A Woman Sets the Atmosphere
“A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.”
—Proverbs 14:1
Your husband sets the rules, but Woman of God, you set the atmosphere and tone.
Encourage him. Empower him. Pray for him. Love him like the King God says he is — even when he’s not acting like it.
Love covers a multitude of offenses. (1 Peter 4:8)
No, I’m not saying stay in abuse — absolutely not.
But love gives you the wisdom and grace to overlook small offenses without reacting to everything.
Let God give you discernment to know when to address things — and when to simply let go.
Final Thoughts: Culture vs. Kingdom
Woman of God, you can only submit to authority correctly when you fully submit to God.
If culture has more influence over you than Christ, you’ll resist godly divine order every time.
Here’s the challenge:
Stop fighting with your words — start fighting on your knees.
Pray more than you complain.
Stop OVERREACTING: Invite God into every area of your life, ESPECIALLY your emotions.
Your words can make or break your husband, your marriage, and even your destiny.
“The tongue has the power of life and death.”
—Proverbs 18:21
Choose to speak life. Choose to build with your words. Choose to be a woman who God can trust to carry His glory into her home.
Who are you: A woman of the Word, or a Woman of the world?
The choice is yours — but I pray you choose WELL & Let your answer be seen in how you live.
Music time—but with a twist!
Fun Fact: When I fully gave my life to Christ, something wild happened—I became a reader. And if you know me, that’s nothing short of a miracle. I’ve read over 30 books in two years, which is hilarious because I never liked reading (some of y’all probably thought I couldn’t read—be honest!). Truly It shows God really can transform every part of you.
One book that blessed me deeply (and I’ve read it more than once and cried every time I read the first chapter) is “God Is My Matchmaker” by Derek Prince. It’s a beautiful story of surrender in the area of marriage. Seeing a man yield to God like that? Whew. It’ll bless you. If you’re praying about marriage or just need a fresh reminder of God’s faithfulness, grab this book. It’s a treasure.
And now, for the worship. My fav worship singer? Theophilus Sunday. His songs aren’t just melodies—they’re encounters. Start with these two:
Prepare to be undone. These songs will pull you into deep intimacy with Jesus.
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